I participated in a “service” fraternity ,also called professional fraternities: Phi Mu Alpha (Sinfonia) .You can probably guess what profession I am by the last part .If you assume that the Phi is almost always a Greek stand-in for Fratria (Phratria) Brotherhood and the Mu was a place- holder for musika.
Then ,the Alpha really breaks down the Greek-ness .I think they just threw it in for association ,or something.Sinfonia isn’t really Greek ,either .It’s obviously the Italian word for symphony.We did participate in the Pan-Hellenic games,but were not allowed to compete in music competitions due to our unfair advantages .
Because I was not a sportsman,I did not personally compete.We had a very strong profile on both campuses ,so I could get into parties as a member of my service frat.I was never comfortable ,because I was in the “closet” for most of my college experience,even though I had been out in high school/
People don’t talk about the in/out/in/out game very much ,but many Gays go back and forth ,because we are not always safe being out.It became really silly for me to stay in the closet at Cincinnati ,so I finally told everyone.I was OUT when my housemate invited me to that kegger at SAE.
Women should insist that sororities and fraternities follow the same rules.There is no reason that ANYONE could name that would justify double standards. Getting men to abide by one standard for all is another story.That would require exposing every man’s double standards in a very LOUD way.I think standing together is the answer,and sororities could be a great help.