Name Dropping

jordangonen
Jun 13, 2018 · 1 min read

I have done it. We all have. But let’s all be honest with ourselves, name dropping is the worst.

What do I mean by that?

Surely you have been in those conversations were every other sentence the other person utters out of their mouth contains some humble brag about how they know x person or have talked to y person.

The truth?

The more you name drop, chances are the less people you know.

I used to (and still) somewhat do have this problem where I am constantly combing through my memory linking things I have heard of with the active conversation. In effect, I do this to show my knowledge. I do this for ego. But I also do this, to be fair, to make the conversation deeper and more interesting.

The end result of this, though, is not what I intend.

The end result is that I become a “name dropper” — someone who thinks they are gaining credibility by bragging about who they know but in reality are losing it.

I want to avoid that.

I am establishing a few internal rules. Be super cognizant and well-defined about who you say you know versus actually know.

Secondly, and most importantly, only bring up extremely relevant and helpful names.

The truth is that *most people* do not care about who you know. They care about who you are.


Originally published at Jordan Gonen.

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