How to Avoid Bad Choices that Can Ruin Your Future
We are constantly compelled to make choices all the time, some pleasant and sometimes not very pleasant choices. Everyday you have to make a choice on what to eat, what to wear, where to go, what to do, who to hang out with, which route to take, who to call,…..the list goes on and on. But more importantly, the choices you make will make you or break you (am sure you have heard this countless times).
Our choices will always determine who we’ll eventually become down the road. As a matter of fact, who you are today is a sum total of all the choices you have made previously in your life. So there is no gainsaying in the fact that the choices or decisions we make are important aspects of our lives. So the pertinent question you should be asking yourself (and answering) is: how do you make your choices, do you think before making your decisions, who do you discuss with when you are in the middle of a tough decision, what effect has the choices you have made had on your life?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are endlessly contemplating between certain options before you? You know, that time when you are wondering should I do this or not; or which of these options is the best one to pick? Let’s see how Lot, Abraham’s nephew responded to a similar situation and the effects it had on his life later on. Lot found himself in that situation and he didn’t hesitate to make a choice. He probably did not ask for guidance, neither did he think twice about it. The option he decided to take looked good and brilliant at first, but in the end, it turned out to be a disaster. Let’s see how he made his choice, the things that may have influenced his choice and the end results.
Lot Choose For Himself…
Lot trusted his instincts so well that he did not waste any time when he was asked to make a choice. He
turned around and looked and what he saw made him confident that he had made the right choice. Unfortunately, it turned out in the course of time that the decision was his first step towards his destruction. It is the same thing for any outcome in your life. It all starts with a decision and a choice, which eventually, determines what the outcome will be. Are you too confident in your abilities and intellect that you don’t need any advice or guidance? Do you often feel that you know everything and you don’t need anybody to tell you anything? Be careful! These are warning signs that you may be heading in the wrong direction. How about asking God for help and guidance? See what this scripture says:
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you
do, and he will show you which path to take” (Proverbs 3:5–6 NLT)
Deception of the Eyes…
Lot saw with his eyes that the land was beautiful and I am sure he must have daydreamed about it several times, imagining the things he will do there. But his eyes only showed him the things he could see about the land, he did not see or know what his eyes couldn’t see.
He could not see that it will be a difficult place to raise a family, he did not see that the people there will probably be difficult to do business with, he did not see that righteous people will be scarce there, neither did he see or know that wickedness will abound there. Your sight can deceive you, so many important things can be hidden from your physical sight. You need to trust God in all that you do even if you know everything. There are some things about future outcomes that you’ll never know at the point of making decisions. So what do you do in addition to trusting and depending on God?
Asking for Advice…
Lot did not ask his uncle to make a choice first before him, or at least ask him which way he should go. I guess he trusted his decisions so well that he didn’t need any advice. Maybe he didn’t want his uncle to pick the ‘best place’ and leave him with something that wasn’t good enough. At first, he must have been excited with his choice and bragged about how smart he was in making that choice. He ended up making a huge mistake! It is wisdom to ask for advice even in situations where you think you have it all together.
A good counsel may help you see a perspective about your situation or decision that you never considered before. It may just be what you need to get it right. Always remember this scripture:
“For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.” (Proverbs 11:14 NIV)
What You Must Do….
You should never be too confident of yourself in the decisions or choices you make. Never trust or depend on your own wisdom, but rather, trust in the ability of God to help you make good choices. Our knowledge (as human beings) is always limited, and not good enough to make good quality decisions. We may have some bias, prejudices, and inclinations that may affect the kind of choices we make; and this can lead to devastating consequences.
However, you can commit your thoughts, plans, desires before the Lord and trust Him to guide you by His spirit to make good decisions all the time. You can always be confident of the decisions you make by the help of the Holy Spirit, because He knows the end from the beginning. He sees what you cannot see, and knows what you don’t know. So when you commit your ways before Him, He has promised to direct you in the way you should go; and we can be confident of the choices we make when we involve Him in it.
We are bound to fail when we depend on our own knowledge and senses in making choices and decisions.
Please share your experience in making decisions and what you have learned from it.