You’re Doing The Best That You Can.

I’m willing to risk being a walking cliche to share my truth. Whether you’ve heard this before or not, it’s worth repeating…

Both you and I are doing the absolute best that we can. We couldn’t have done what we did any better based on our current and past understanding of life at the time.

We don’t know what we don’t know. If I’m starving for something — whether that be love or a sandwich, my best action might be to steal, coerce, or manipulate my way to getting my needs met. I might not see another option based on my current understanding.

If you are in a heated argument with your partner or parents, your best might be to close up, get defensive, and make the other person wrong.

I want to be clear. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t responsible for our actions. You are still responsible for the impact that you have. What I’m pointing to is that we are always and only acting on the choices that we’re able to see in the moment, given how we see life. (And with more understanding, more choices generally become available.)

Whatever your current circumstances are, I want you to get this. Not just read this, but really take a moment to be gotten by this.

You are doing the absolute best that you can right now.

Even if you don’t think so, you are.