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Things I don’t get #2: How to be more grateful edition


Last time I mentioned my quest to find answers to my ever growing list of questions. I also acknowledged that, yes I could Google the answer, but I wanted a bit more. For the purposes of this question I would also note that I’m a happy and optimistic guy.

This week I’m trying to figure out how to be more grateful.

Lately, despite my resolutions, I realize I’m falling back into an old habit I‘m trying to break. Specifically moaning about little things.

Frankly, I’m starting to annoy myself.

I tell annoying me to stop b*itching about the stuff that doesn’t matter. I know there are friends and loved ones, along with millions of people I don’t know, facing real problems: health issues, job loss, and personal challenges. Yet here I am complaining about the weather or how obnoxious the traffic is on any given day.

I get it. These are fake problems I’m griping about — that’s my point.

When I think about it I’ve always been guilty of, especially after the passing of a loved one, saying that, “I’m going to live my life differently from now on. . .”, yet somehow I allow the day-to-day to get in the way of practicing what I earnestly declare during those times of tragedy.

The fact that I’m blessed isn’t lost on me. I have a family I couldn’t love more and, according to them anyway, the feeling is mutual. We have our faith. We live in a safe neighborhood and I’m employed. We have our health, for the most part despite my wife’s challenges, and the necessities are covered: food, shelter, and heat. We’re blessed.

So what’s my problem?

Honestly I don’t know the answer. It’s not as if I spend my days constantly mumbling to myself about how miserable everything is that day. In fact I’d say I smile regularly. Still, there are times I find myself grousing about something I have no control over.

Obnoxious? Spoiled? Useless? It certainly feels that way.

Natural? I don’t know. I’m hoping public declaration and acknowledgement helps.

I recently read 10 Lessons from 100 Days of Meditation and it has certainly helped me relax, but I’d like to do a better job of not only relaxing, but also becoming more appreciative.

So here’s my question:

Are you grateful every day? If so how?

Love any tips you would be willing to share. If you are just as curious as I am but don’t have an answer feel free to pass this on to someone who can help us both.


I’m on a quest to find answers to my never ending questions, along with whatever pops into my head. Finding answers to these serious and sometimes not so serious questions is my attempt to interact more and Google less. Please feel free to follow along for more thoughts on the ever-growing list of things I don’t get.