To start off, I wanted to start this project with the hopes of sharing my story and hopefully helping other people along the way.
Everyone’s coming out story is different and unique. I believe I owe it to the world and myself to live my life openly and as authentically as I can. By doing this I hope to give those who can’t come out a platform and a safe space for them to be who they are and know it will get better.
I am forever thankful my own family is more accpeting than most families when it comes to being gay. I have always known that I was interested in guys, but I didn’t get the chance to experiment until I got to college. That was when I decided for myself that I was gay.
I will say that having just one family member or even close friend that you can safely come out to helps in a huge way. If it wasn’t for my cousin I don’t know if I would be writing this right now.
We were laying on the beach and she asked me if I was gay and then told me that she was not only totally accepting of it but also supported me one hundred percent and this meant the world to me at the time. Having this person I could talk to in my family about what I was going through made a huge difference in my plans to come out as gay. Coming out to my parents was not nearly as rough as I imagined it to be, my parents just wanted to keep me safe most of all and told me they still loved me for who I am.
In the end, as scary as the thought of coming out may be, you will never stop doing it and the more you come out to people the easier it gets. I started telling my closest friends and then friends of friends and the more I did it the more comfortable I got with it and realized that most people could care less.
Never be afraid to be who you are and live as authentically as possible. You may be someone’s outlet or you may save a life. Be true to yourself and the world will be a better place because of it.
Love is not defined by any race, gender, religion, ethnicity or background but only what is in your heart.
— Joshua Webber