Have you ever heard of the “crabs in a bucket” mentality, or Crab Mentality for short? Even if the term sounds unfamiliar to you, you may have encountered such a phenomenon at some point in your life.

Interested in finding out more about the Crab Mentality? Read on to find out what it is, how it holds you back, and how you can overcome it!

What is the Crab Mentality?


Vision boards — you’ve probably heard about them, especially among the self-care or self-improvement circles on the Internet. But what exactly are they, and what’s the hype all about?

When the going gets tough, it can be difficult to stay focused on your goals and on what’s important. Exercising regularly is no easy feat, especially if you’re just starting out, which is why so many people eventually give up on their fitness goals. Well, if only there was a way to remind you of your goals and ideal body to keep you inspired and motivated to work out…

And that…


Winter’s a-coming! While there’s a lot we can romanticise about this chilly season, it’s undoubtedly a challenging one for some of us.

As it is, the bulk of us have spent a significant portion of the year locked inside due to the global pandemic. Depending on where you’re from, there may be some of us who are not exactly thrilled at the idea of being cooped indoors once again, thanks to the weather.


Many years ago, two good friends sat down and decided to have a week-long conversation about the nature of joy. This unlikely pairing endured a great amount of suffering, but were known throughout the world for their cheerfulness and love of life in spite of what they’ve endured.

These two good friends happened to be the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and their conversations have been compiled into a famous book known as the Book of Joy.

Today, I will be sharing about what I’ve learned from this book.

2020 has been a rollercoaster for all of us. You…


When I was first asked to write and plan this interview session, I was initially filled with trepidation. The idea of discussing somebody’s painful experiences felt a little condescending to me. What if I ended up being an insensitive jerk?

Nevertheless, I did my homework and after some online “stalking”, I found myself eventually warming up to the idea of talking to Sabrina. I even found myself looking forward to having a genuine conversation with her.

It’s rare to find somebody who is so open and willing to talk about the pain they’ve been through — especially to strangers.

This…


When I throw out the term “Hygge”, what image appears in your mind?

For me, I envision expensive fluffy blankets. Maybe imported woollen socks. If I think for a couple more seconds, I might just think of massive beeswax candles certain shops have the audacity to charge hundreds of dollars for.

Since Hygge is a Danish cultural practice, you might even relate it to a high standard of living. That Hygge is merely a luxury lifestyle with a cozy aesthetic.

However, this is not the genuine meaning of Hygge.

What is Hygge?

The Danish term “Hygge” (pronounced hoo-gah)is a practice that focuses on…


When was the last time you’ve sat yourself down and talked about your genuine worries, concerns and innermost feelings? How often do you find yourself turning to social media and other distractions, in an attempt to avoid facing yourself?

As someone with a bit of a type-A personality, I often find myself constantly keeping myself busy, guilt-tripping myself for using any free time on “self-indulgent” things like relaxing or lazing around.

“I have too many things I want to do, and too little time!”

As a result, I’ve found myself absolutely incapable of pausing to reflect on how I’m feeling…


I’ve always hated self-help books. I could never really understand why people felt the need to be told what to do or how to do things. My general stance initially was — if I ever face a problem, I’ll deal with it myself and if things go badly, the consequences is something I’ll have to bear alone.

This sort of edgy lone wolf mentality had some perks. It made me quite self-sufficient and forced me to be strong, even when things got rough.

However, this also meant that I had an almost masochistic attitude towards anything that happened to me…


Dale Carnegie’s best-selling book has been hailed as a sort of life manual. In it, he navigates the tedious art of diplomacy — an art that everyone has to attempt throughout their lives for various reasons.

As a newly minted graduate, I would like to say that I emerged from my studies bright-eyed and bushy tailed, with the optimism of a Disney character.

Unfortunately, with the ongoing global pandemic and the resulting economic crises, I found myself living in fear. A lot of companies were bleeding money. …


Life is too short for you to constantly worry about people and things that are toxic for you. This can be in the form of friends, relationships, habits etc and cutting them away from your life is a step forward to becoming a happier and better self.

When you get rid of stuff that do not value add or bring positivity, you make space for others that will enrich and improve your life!

Here are a few things that you should remove from your life:

1. The desire to please others

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