I hear the complaint that unwanted attention from males is annoying and common in NYC, and in a professional setting its much worse. Although being a woman at a conference like this also has its benefits, if there were not many female techs I would imagine you stood out among a sea homogeneous candidates who have difficulty differentiating themselves. I couldn’t find any specific examples of sexism that you experienced at the conference, could you elaborate? Maybe that would help me understand the conclusion better
“What I propose is for our identity to show us where our true human power lies.”
This seems like a remarkably bad idea. In the previous paragraphs you criticize male superiors who are too blinded by a woman’s body to realize her best asset is her brain. But then you go on to claim that one’s demographic profile should be our source of power, instead of our brains. Our “identity” is prioritized rather than our ideas, actions, and accomplishments. It seems like you are heavily invested in a grievance identity, for example you describe yourself as an “intersectional minority” and say this identity informs but everything from mundane tasks to business decisions, and yet based on your appearance most would probably not assume you are a minority. I wonder if this ambiguity has created any internal conflict and played a role in proclaiming the grievance identity.