Hard work is about something different.
There’s a growing culture of so-called “influencers” online who live and breathe by the fact they wake up at 5 am. Every day. As if this alone was worthy of monumental praise and forms the basis of everything that makes up their meaning in this world.
Breaking News: It doesn’t.
Yet countless people all over the world looking for their next personal and professional messiah will listen intently to the teachings of these people as if they’re automatically qualified to be giving anybody serious life advice. …
I try to write every day. Even on the days when I’m not particularly “feeling it” I knuckle-down and clatter my fingertips to the keyboard until something of some description finally happens. But it’s not because it’s my job; It’s because there’s a part of me that feels like I have an obligation to do what I do.
If you can write (and by “write” I don’t just mean playing with the idea of writing. I mean having a skill for the game) then you should do it as much as humanly possible, in a whole host of ways. …
Nobody ever told me what to expect when I became depressed. It’s not something that’s discussed at home, in the classroom, at work or even at the doctors’ office.
But even in the places depression was discussed openly and freely, everybody failed to mention one thing that is pretty important:
If you’re turning your head in confusion I totally get it; From a purely physical standpoint, depression is not contagious at all. A depressed person can’t sneeze on you and suddenly you catch it too, so relax.
But one thing I’ve discovered is that it’s incredibly easy to feel depressed as a result of someone else's depression, to the point where you begin to feel the same or even worse. …
The world needs hope right now. So do you.
My middle name is Peter. In High School, a few of the kids used to joke that the ‘P’ in my name didn’t stand for Peter at all; It stood for Pessimistic.
That’s a pretty big word for a young teenager, and I didn’t even know what the word meant until I’d heard it used as an insult against me. But in all honesty, looking back, I don’t blame them for gifting me such an unusual title.
I was miserable. Not all the time, but most of it. This was because of a few different factors (as it always is) but let’s just say I wasn’t having the best time at home. If I had to give my demons a name we use nowadays, they’d probably be mild depression and anxiety. …
A few months ago I was prescribed a set of anti-depressants to help handle my symptoms of Derealisation Disorder (which I’ve also written about — you can find that piece here).
The doctor warned me there might be some small side-effects as my body adjusted to the drugs, which is understandable and certainly expected. What wasn’t expected were just how odd some of these side-effects would turn out to be.
The usual suspects came and went: Nausea, dizzyness, irritability. But everything else was highly unwanted and downright scary at times. …
For most of us lucky enough to still have jobs during the COVID-19 crisis, adapting to working from home has been one of two things:
How can working from home possibly be seen as a bad thing?! You get to wear whatever you want all day (don’t even have to change out of your PJs if you don’t want to!), …
Did you ever take a moment to figure out exactly how much time you spend looking at emails?
When our work requires a full-time connection to our inbox, we don’t really have a choice. But when we’re the ones being badgered by consistent notifications from stupid, pointless marketing emails it’s time to put in the extra effort and Unsubscribe.
I think this works as a good metaphor for life, too. …
I’ve been writing professionally for around 2 years now and, in all that time, the one thing that’s struck me the most is the way other young writers romanticize the idea of writing for a living.
Yes, in many respects, it’s a dream job. But it is by no means a perfect life. If you want to work as a writer and really stick at it, you’re going to have to find ways to balance everything that’s going on in your life and in your head. And, trust me, there’s going to be a lot going on in both.
Here are a few things you can try to stay sane as a…
There comes a time in many prizefights where a fighter begins to throw shots more freely, loosely. He looks relaxed, his hands drop a little, his feet are balanced yet constantly in motion, and he isn’t afraid to throw combinations for fear of being countered.
He has found his flow.
Then again, boxing is often a grueling spectacle; whatever you try, nothing seems to ‘click’ and you’re continuously getting caught with jab after jab. Until the inevitable happens and you’re out for the count.
I find writing to be a similar experience. There are days when words pour from your fingers like there’s no tomorrow and you don’t want to stop or you might lose the magic touch. But there are dark days, too. Where no matter how much mental energy you drill into your work, nothing seems to happen, and every single word you put to the page is a desperate struggle. …
My old coach used to tell me “Confidence is the key to everything in life.”
But some of us will never experience what it’s like to be confident in any aspect of our lives, which is a notoriously common trait for those suffering from anxiety, depression and similar afflictions.
This article is for those people; the people who’ve given everything they have to try and find confidence, only to have it thrown back in their face. …