I’ve read many of these sorts of articles. This is the first in a long time that has something both valuable AND original to say on the topic. Well done.
(I used to work with teenagers from ‘difficult situations’ and was disheartened by how many of them were like you describe here, so completely focused on their own needs. The reasons are complex, and I’m not saying they were bad or wrong; just the opposite, I’m saying they were victims of poor upbringing and bad choices. Their lives would be stunted if they didn’t learn the value of giving.)