Thank you, Spiritual Seeker for taking the time to respond.
This has always been my approach — walk children through the process and the consequences and then let them make their own decision. For the most part, they “get the message”, although there are times, when they try to stretch the boundaries. That’s when it’s important that the consequences are as “promised”. IMHO, children and children — past and present.
AND — ABSOLUTELY! Parents need to be role models. Children listen to what parents do more than to what they say. HUGS ❤