How the Pandemic has taught us about enough

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Lagom, pronounced la-gum, is the Swedish way of proclaiming an adequate amount. If you recall the story of Goldilocks, whenever she found something in the bear’s home that fulfilled her need, she stated it was just right. That’s what living a Lagom life is about, one of moderation and contentment, having enough to satisfy a need.

Unlike hygge, which is to get cozy in the moment, lagom is long-term. It’s finding the balance of having enough for us with some left to share with others. …


You take care of others, but are you taking care of yourself?

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A review of a self-care study by Katherine E. Dorociak, Patricia A Rupert, Fred B Byrant, and Evan Zahniser was published in the Journal of Counseling Psychology (2017, vol 64). They defined self-care as “a multidimensional, multifaced process of purposeful engagement in strategies that promote healthy functioning and enhance well-being.” That’s a lot of words to say, taking care of yourself is essential and takes a lot of work in different areas.

With all the additional stressors added to our lives lately, self-care is more vital than before. Too often, we (women in particular) are so busy taking care of…


Change your mindset and attitude with good habits.

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The one thing everyone can universally agree on is we want to be happy in life, with life. How can one find happiness?

You can buy trinkets, but after the new wears off, you’re back to being unsatisfied again.

You can change your hairstyle, hair color, clothes, shoes, but again the happy factor is temporary.

Being happy is more than a passing emotion. True happiness comes from contentment. Getting content means doing more than being mindful or, being in the moment. You need to find you, the passion that drives and motivates you. …


Why it’s important to make down time space in your home

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A few months ago, our homes were just that, homes. They were places where we slept, kept our things, ate together sometimes. We hung our clothes in closets, took showers, slept. In the mornings, we rushed to get ready for work, get our kids off to school, and us off to work.

Now things are different. Our homes have become the place where we live, work, go to school and yes, eat. Some of us have found ways to be creative with carving out spaces where we can accomplish all these things. Some of us may have noticed, no matter…


Figure out what you need to succeed.

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I want you to want me.

I need you to need me.

I’d loved you to love me.

I’m begging you to beg me.

Lyrics by Rick Neilson, song performed by CheapTrick, expresses what's inside of us all.

Belongingness, the human need to be accepted, dwells in us all. Maslow grouped it with the need for love and placed it in the middle of his pyramid. The need to belong, to be accepted, to be included, is imprinted in our DNA, along with the need for love. It drives us to be more than acquainted with a person, organization, or…


Push away from procrastinating and find your motivating triggers.

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Being in lockdown should be the time when you get caught up on the things you pushed off doing, things like washing the windows, cleaning out the attic or basement, painting rooms, or weeding the gardens.

Somewhere in the back of your mind, you know the things that need to get done, but well, there’s always tomorrow.

Motivation, that one word can hold you back from accomplishing any goal you set. Whether it’s getting a glass of water, booking a vacation, or doing the laundry that’s piled up to the ceiling, nothing gets done if you don’t feel like dealing…


Times have changed; haven’t people?

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In 1943 Abraham Maslow introduce the world to his hierarchy of needs concept. At the time, the world was at war, rationing existing in every country and for many carrying a gas mask and knowing where the nearest safe place was, was a normal part of life.

Here we are in 2020 amid a pandemic. How does Maslow’s hierarchy of needs relate to our world now? Is it still a viable theory or one that worked back then? Maslow believed his work summed up motivation and personality in the human race. His underlying theory is based on the belief that…


We’re just on an unknown one now

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O ye’ll tak’ the high road, and I’ll tak’ the low road,

And I’ll be in Scotland a’fore ye,

But me and my true love will never meet again,

On the bonnie, bonnie banks o’ Loch Lomond.

(from the song Bonnie Banks of Loch Lomond, writer unknown)


Connect, especially in times of crisis.

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If you grew up playing the board games Life, Risk, or Monopoly, then you know events can change a player’s fortunes quickly. If you’ve lived long enough, then you know life is continually changing with a revolving door of obstacles to overcome. Some are merely pebbles to step over, and others are mountains to be climbed. A person with low mental strength will turn the pebbles into mountains and give up trying to win the game. One who is resilient makes the mountain a heap of stones and push toward winning.

Which are you?

Not sure? Then do the self-diagnostic…


With you or alone?

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Surveys and studies have shown that roughly half of all dog owners let their pets share their bed. This indicates that half are for and half against this practice. It’s a half glass of water conundrum. All the research has proven is there is no right or wrong answer to this cosleeping dilemma.

Sleeping with pets goes back to ancient times. “Three Dog Night” is more than the name of a rock group popular in the 70s. It is a phrase thought to have originated in the Canadian maritime provinces, where sleeping with your dog was practiced, especially on those…

Julie Canfield

Julie (aka J.L.Canfield) A southerner with Celtic blood, an award-winning author of mysteries and chick lit, and writer of great pieces published here.

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