Do I Really Have Time to Date Her/Him?
“Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as "taking," you are not getting it.”
Henry Cloud
Relationships can be very time consuming. Oftentimes, the time devoted is onesided and not very beneficial on both ends. All of us, in some sort of capacity yearn for a a significant other to confide in emotionally, sexually and mentally. But in the end of it all. Is it really worth the time, effort and work that relationships appear to take in these ever-changing times?
1. Less Time to Focus on You
Through various measures and means, the obligations once held sacred is now being challenged in our ever-changing progressive society. Expectations have been raised and gone are the days of the man being “the man” and dominant role in a relationship. The pressures of being successful, stable and independent have rocked our society’s core more so than ever in the last ten years and dating has been tougher than ever. A man is expected to have something “going” for himself and the pressures of a romantic relationship brings extra stress to both parties.
Through social media, our lives are always on scope and “keeping up with the Jones’” has seeped its way into people’s love life to where the appearance of a romance may fall victim to be more important than the relationship itself.
2. Why Limit Yourself?
With the influx of burgeoning dating trends, (polygamy, polyamorous, polyandry etc) it doesn’t quite make sense to only view monogamy as the only route to a successful relationship. So many men and women alike are turning to alternative forms of dating in rather large numbers. Dating openly may not be for everyone, but it sure eliminates the pressure of dating one person exclusively. Being tied down to one person can be particularly fatalistic before truly dating several people to develop a sense of what you like and what you want out of a relationship. Personally, I have been both the bearer of burdensome expectations as well as the one to carry them. In either case, it is not fun.
3. What About You?
Look, we all want love and to feel that thing that only someone of the opposite sex(or same) can give to us. But at the end of the day, to devote oneself fully to their dating partner more than themselves can be damaging to your career, life goals and overall health.