ask a non-binary is a Tumblr blog that is “dedicated to answering questions about non-binary or gender queer identities” founded on March 2011 by someone who referred to himself or herself as Cydne. Multiple moderators are currently running the blog, and they keep very low profiles on the blog by simply going as Danny and Max without any photo or more personal details. On the Information page, the blogger titled it “What does non-binary mean?” by defining it as “a term for people who are not men or women, or are both men and women, or who are something else entirely, or are some combination of these things, or some of these things some of the time.” The blog is run by contributors who voluntarily want to help maintain this safe space and help out confused people about their sexuality.
The setup of this blog is very basic and general Q&A style blog with the Courier font with no visuals, and just a turquoise background with white boxes and with the black word posts. Danny has a straightforward, stoic and didactic voice when answering questions, while Max has a very encouraging, friendly and warm voice. The blog runs question-based, and often times reposting blog posts from other non-binary blogger on Tumblr who needs help in need of attention of others. It can be tell through the blog why it is able to continue and still going strong for five years with constant flow of questions.
One post an anonymous asked: “If gender is felt differently by individuals, and is expressed differently across cultures and history, does a starting point even exist to know what feeling like a girl or feeling like a boy even means? Sometimes I wonder if I rejected the girl/boy binary in favor of the same thing as a feminine/masculine binary. What do we mean by gender? I keep seeing anti-trans posts about confusing gender and personality, but if anyone can be anything we’re all a gender and our labels are pointless.” Danny eloquently explained to the asker with in-depth explanation of the definition of agender and gender dysphoria and how it exists in the social context. He was confident in his voice and convincing. Although some of the explanation was confusing and not elaborative enough, but his explanation of labels, self-identity and self vs. society touched on lots of important points regarding sexuality.
Max in another Q&A post was extremely kind and gave external links to help an asked called prepschoolpunk with him trying to change his name. He was empathetic by saying “Names can be tricky thing to be honest! And it’s cool if you don’t want to change it.” His voice in comparison to Danny is much sweeter but still helpful. And ended with “Just do what feels right, and good luck!”
There are posts with haters degrading what the blog is meant for by calling it awkward or strange, or trying to argue with them on what they are saying. Both contributors do a good job by focusing on the mission of the blog to create a safe space for discussions and questions-answering. This is a really detailed blog that dives into the subcategory of sexuality, gender labels and identity, which offers insight into a world that I don’t know much about myself.