Are you living for the gram? Maybe it’s time to try something else.

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Once upon a time, I was an Instagram fanatic. I was a pure devotee who used to defend it with zeal. It’s a little embarrassing how much I believed Instagram was the answer. Not only was I complacent in giving the majority of my time to the app, but I was also arguing its importance to others who were skeptical of the “true benefits,” I preached.

Fear not, dear reader, my days of convincing are over — at least when it comes to social media. I’m not here to tell you that you need to give up Instagram or that it’s an evil, terrible thing that will eat away at your humanity and destroy us all. …

I had to learn it the hard way.

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You hear it everywhere. Popular psychologists, books, movies, T.V., Cosmopolitan magazine. Getting back together with an ex is rarely a good decision. Yet a lot of us, especially me, still decide to actively ignore the free advice we’ve been given. We give the people who are no longer in our lives another chance.

There’s a difference between staying friends with your ex and getting back together with your ex. I’ve done both, and neither worked out well.

There are countless people out there for you. 90% of them are a better option than your ex.

I’ve always been very outgoing and making friends has come naturally to me, so staying friends with exes didn’t seem like a crazy idea. It felt like the norm. …

I’d never given long-distance relationships much thought—until I ended up in one.

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When I met Quinn a few years ago, an amorous entanglement seemed inevitable.

We had the same taste in literature, we listened to similar music and shared the same values, and we were both infatuated with each other. Our personalities fit together like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, and we were still different enough to bring new things to the table and push each other to grow. Our differences kept our conversations engaging. We often taught each other new things, and he helped me see the world from different perspectives.

Quinn was in North America, and I was in Europe.

I’m not sure how the relationship began, but it was a textbook whirlwind romance. I’d never pictured myself in a long-distance relationship. …

I saved $10,000 in three months, but I had to make some sacrifices.

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I​ feel like I was kept in the dark in university — or college, for all of my American readers. I see you. Now that I’m a year removed from graduation, it seems like everybody but me got the jumpstart on what to do with their money.

All of my peers seemed to understand how to make sure they had some cash leftover at the end of each month.

Spending money is a part of the way we live — I’m not asking you to throw your wallet in a safe and roam the streets cashless for the rest of your days. …

You called your teacher “mom” again. So what?

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It happens to everyone. Your date just told you that there’s toilet paper stuck to the bottom of your shoe. Nobody told you about the food that’s been stuck in your teeth all day. You accidentally sent an intimate text meant for your partner to your boss. You tripped and landed face-first on the ground in front of your crush. You were dancing like nobody was watching, only to come to the horrifying realization that somebody had, in fact, been watching. You finally worked up the courage to confess your love to someone only to have them tell you they really like you as a friend. …

Haven’t you heard? Love has the power to turn us into the person we’re supposed to be.

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Growing up, we’re taught that love is the be-all and end-all. In movies and on TV, relationships are often the end goal or the result. Love is supposed to fix all of our problems. A romantic partner is meant to love us unconditionally. It’s up to them to make us happy, fulfill our deepest desires, reassure us, and satisfy us. If we can just find that one person, we’re prepared to believe that love will complete us. Haven’t you heard? Love has the power to turn us into the person we’re supposed to be.

I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a lot of pressure to place on someone else to me. I’d even go so far as to say some of the onus falls on us — maybe even most of it. …

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How to live your life for you. Not for the people who are watching.

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In the age of Instagram, it’s easy to get caught up in trying to portray a certain image. In the pursuit of likes and engagement, we can forget to live our lives for ourselves. One of the first steps toward leading a happier life is to stop and take a moment for yourself. Stop worrying about how your life looks and start focussing on how it feels.

If you’re continually policing yourself based on how other people see your life, you aren’t living it for yourself. Being online makes it too easy for us to compare our lives to the lives of everyone around us. Consequently, too many of us fall into a pattern of working hard to portray our lives in a particular way. …

Time to kick back with some sweets, a Netflix classic, and a glass of chardonnay.

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Anticipated with love by many and dreaded with fear and loathing by many others, Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. It’s a time for your troubles to disappear — a time to be swept off your feet and into the arms of your dearest beloved.

Okay, hold up — that doesn’t sound quite right.

Whether it be with a romantic getaway, a candle-lit date night in, a blind date inadvertently scheduled for Valentine’s Day, or a night home alone on the couch binging You on Netflix, we all have ways to spend the 14th day of February. While Valentine’s Day may be a Hans Christian Andersen fairytale covered in Disney glitter for some of you, plenty of people plan to celebrate being single. …


Justice King

Former Editorial Assistant at Lonely Planet 🇬🇧 🇨🇦 Writer, Activist, Environmentalist, Feminist, Traveller.

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