How a Rubik’s Cube changed my whole perspective on relationships
We are like a Rubik’s cube and often times we expect the person we want to be in a relationship with to be every color of our rubik’s cube placing undue and impossible pressure on the other person. As humans we are created to need relationships and different kinds of relationships. When we can align and choose the right relationships, we can have a better life that isn’t full of discombobulated colors and chaos.
Rubik’s Cube = You
Colors = Relational needs
Individual cubes = Different relationships
There are 6 colors in a rubik’s cube. So lets imagine each color represents a different need for relationships that we have:
Many times we are searching for a partner that is every color of the cube, but then if that exists, it eliminates the need for other people in our lives. Did you ever wonder why the platonic relationships you have are so much more liberating than your significant other relationships? Should it be or are we placing too much pressure on our significant other? Instead of enjoying the relationships we have all around us including our significant other and seeing that the sum of the parts make up the whole, we expect one person to be every color for us. That is impossible. What if our significant other was just one or two of the colors that made up our entire cube. What if it looked like this?
Or mix and match your colors. Some will overlap and some won’t. Maybe your husband doesn’t connect with your excitement for innovative medical instrumentation or Yoga wearable technology, but your friends and co-workers do. Maybe your girlfriend isn’t the best person to talk about your love for Python code and play Call of Duty with but your brother or best friends are. However, she will most likely watch Game of Thrones with you and you would most likely take a spin class with her. You need to determine what colors are important for the different relationships in your life and what colors can only come from yourself. The point is, to not seek a relationship with someone who can be every color of your cube or it will look more like this:
