Why The Law of Attraction Makes You Unhappy
… And what to do instead
I was depressed in school. Time couldn’t pass by unless I teleported myself to another world. Sometimes I took a train ride, sat down and just began imagining myself getting appraised for a great kickboxing victory. But this wasn’t an escape from my current reality. It was an amplification of everything that was wrong with it.
When I daydreamed there was always an end to it. But I wanted more. I wanted to know what happened after I had achieved all the fame, fortune, and sexual experiences that the world had to offer. But my daydream mind was clueless.
Now I know exactly what happens once I achieve everything I want. Probably a hot bathtub, some razor blades, and a wikiHow article titled, “How to write a death note”.
Dreams are shortcuts to what we don’t need
Dreams are not about the content. They are about your feelings. Dreams let us experience all the feelings we are chasing. And every dream has an end. Isn’t this irony funny? Not for everyone. Some people see dreams as guidelines for where to go in life, so they can experience the “real deal”.
There is no real deal.
The mind can’t differentiate if you are in fact the richest person on Earth or if its all made up. And the feeling that follows, is absolutely terrifying. Its the feeling, that despite all your efforts and achievements, nothing has been added to who you are. And you’ve spent years looking for happiness in an empty chest. So why then, knowing this, do we still continue to chase happiness in materials or certain people?
Get rich or die trying
50 cent is a wise man. He knew, that because of its limitless nature, the universe can give you one of two things. Unlimited suffering or unlimited happiness. There will always be more things to achieve, so there’s always a new way to suffer.
But then, this is also true:
There will always be more things to be grateful for, so there’s always a reason to be happy.
He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have”
Would you rather be content or have everything? I wouldn’t trade contentment for anything. But some people will put their contentment on hold, to see if there is something better. So far, over 100 billion people have tried to find something better. They all either died trying or finally found the rotten carrot and stopped chasing.
Visualize yourself never visualizing again
I used to love the law of attraction. Also known as The Secret. I would carefully visualize having a little more than I already had. A little more money, a slightly better job or a bit more exotic travel destination. I was always scared of visualizing too much. As if I knew, that the bubble would burst if I expanded it too much. And it did. One day I sat down and imagined having EVERYTHING. Everything that ever has or ever will exist. Time, physics and the power of God, all in my possession. My mind said, “Now what?”
Visualization is a tool to go from A to B. And B is not better than A. People who say that they would rather cry in a Ferrari than in a Toyota either don’t own a Ferrari or are just expressing their gratitude for what they already have. Visualization is never going to take you from suffering to happiness. But by imagining all the things we think we need, we can learn to let go of the chase and just be content, grateful and happy. On top of that, we gain the power to attract anything we want.