that part of the antidote to white supremacy that always inherently privileges whiteness and the white perspective is to be able to hold multiple perspectives as real and valid.
Nicki Minaj, White Fragility and Me
Sally Kohn

THIS! You summed in one sentence an entire essay that I’ve been mentally composing for some time now. This is the conversation I want to have with the white people in my life who I love and who I know love me, and yet, continue to spend time denying the portions of my experience that they don’t/can’t experience because they are white. My experience can be valid without invalidating yours… and maybe, by being open to the validity of my experience, it could open and expand your understanding of the world.