Paid Sense

Reality is the best teacher. In business, love, and life — this is truth. Humans are idealistic. We create stories to entertain, to inspire, and to survive. But, oftentimes these stories do not serve us. What serves us is “paid sense”. This is a term I’ve only heard from my business partner, Donny, as he was told by men in his life. I searched online for the term but wasn’t able to find anything. Paid sense, essentially, is the cost of learning a lesson. To never drive drunk again, it’ll cost you: legal fees, substance abuse class charges, and your freedom.

When your idealistic brain says, “Yes.”, Reality says, “Nope.”

For species of masculine energy, specifically, paid sense is the only way. We are far more idealistic than our feminine counterparts, which often leads us to think we are Superman. We think we can run through walls and go against the forces of nature. But, reality has a way of slowing that ambition down. Hitting a wall is the only way.

Paid sense is clever. If someone owes you money and they don’t pay you back, you’ve paid that person to leave you alone. They will hide from you, because of the unpaid debt. Often times we are angry at this person, but we shouldn’t be. It’s paid sense. The lesson is to never lend more than you can afford to lose.

The nature of a loan is risky. You lend out an asset (time, energy, money, etc.) to have it return tenfold. Loans are not guaranteed. For that uncertainty, you are rewarded with interest if the investment returns. If the said investment does not return, you’ve got yourself some paid sense.

When you go into an equal partnership, both parties are accepting the risk that things may not work out as planned. It’s essential to know what each other stands to lose if the relationship goes awry. This must be made clear at the outset of the relationship and continue to be communicated throughout.

In business, one partner may want growth at the risk of profits while the other wants profits at the risk of growth.

In intersexual relationships, the masculine role typically is afraid to lose the emotional security that their partner provides and the feminine role typically is afraid to lose the financial security.

If these two desires aren’t met, the relationship ends.

But as we know, it’s not that easy.

Typically, both parties feel unjust. Who pays what to who?

Whatever cost that you pay, whether it’s emotional turmoil, money, or loss in reputation is paid sense.

Since you didn’t put in a clear outline of the rules to guide the relationship, reality did.

Now, its time to “Pay up.”.

To close this out, I leave you the wise words of Aubrey Graham, “Reality gon’ hit ya or we gon’ hit ya/Either way if they was with ya, they goin’ with ya.”

Don’t fight against reality, she’ll win every time