
Because despite the bizarre facade most of us put up, Pat treats other people like human beings. Yes, he asks you how your day is going, but it’s different. He actually cares about the answer. He remembers what you told him last time and follows up.
…t effective way to shift it is to start by looking at how that thing is tied in with your identity. Because identity is the way we orient ourselves in the world, we get very nervous and clingy about giving any part of it up, even if that part is hurting us more than it’s helping us. For instance, if you’re the-tortured-writer-who-no-one-understands then what happens when you disca…