Can railing against the norms of a prescriptive path lead to a life that’s truly free and full?

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Most of us grew up osmotically absorbing society’s script for a love story: meet someone and date for a while, fall in love, get married, move in together or buy a house, have two kids, and live happily ever after.

It’s the stuff of fairytales, rom-coms and so many Disney movies. And while that might actually be the path to happiness for a select few, it’s a damaging campaign that causes many to live in shame and judgement of their failure to…

If you’re having trouble closing sales, maybe it’s time to consider the internal factors at play.

In the early 1990s, Kim Bartholomew and Leonard M. Horowitz revealed a model of attachment styles for adults, a four-group model that is generally applied to personal relationships. Your attachment style probably found its foundations in your childhood—based on your relationship with one or both parents—though the good news is that it can change over time. Each of us may exhibit all four styles at one point or another during our lifetime.

Knowing your style can help you understand why you behave the way…

How do we actually let go when our deep-rooted fears keep us anchored to the myth we’ve come to believe about what love is?

Alexander Milov. 2015. Love. [Mixed media]. Burning Man; Black Rock Desert, NV

As children, we’re taught by our parents or caretakers what love is, albeit inadvertently. We observe and absorb through osmosis how we’re supposed to "be" in order to have our needs met, to feel safe, and to feel a sense of belonging from those around us.

The inherent issue is that these so-called lessons only distance each of us from our True Nature. Essentially, we abandon ourselves in exchange for that longing for love. …

Could there be benefits of core wounding — and what might we have missed out on, had it never occurred?

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I was recently introduced to the concept of a “180˚” in the context of shadow work — essentially the ability to observe, reflect upon, and realize the myriad positive outcomes as an adult having experienced childhood trauma.

Relationship education leader, Jayson Gaddis coined this term. His mentor, John DeMartini, called it “The DeMartini Method”. Debbie Ford called it “The Divine Recipe”. And in Buddhism, it’s called “The Indestructible View”. Let’s just call it the 180˚ Divine View, shall we?


What makes loving relationships strong and long-lasting — and does the absence of those same components cause downfall?

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In my quest to understand what makes or breaks romantic relationships, I started asking happy couples who have been together for a significant amount of time if they could point to the core reasons for their success.

True for romantic relationships, and top-level for other types too, I’ve recently discovered that there are actually two simple ingredients that emerge as crucial: freedom and respect.

Admittedly, these surprised me because I was expecting answers like trust, honesty, communication, stability, security, understanding, support, and…

My mother’s portrayal of what it meant to be a woman kept me from realizing who I was for forty years.

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It took some time to be able to separate fact from fiction in what was my childhood household.

When I came out around nineteen years old my mother said that I was “disgusting”. I had finally given her a concrete reason not to love me because I bared an imperfection in her eyes, and it nauseated her to consider what people would think or say about her.

But this isn’t the reason why I haven’t been in contact with…

Sharing five realizations that have made me more vulnerable (and stronger) than ever before.

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In the interest of practicing what I preach about vulnerability, I’m sharing the five unfiltered realizations that have surfaced recently — in the hopes that they resonate with others struggling in similar situations, that they inspire more authentic conversation, and that they help alleviate some sense of suffering.

  1. I Thought My Mother Wound Was Healed, But I Was Wrong

Even after a decade and a half of therapy, I couldn’t shake the deep knowing that I was still carrying a lot of childhood trauma. My need…

Shoshone, First Star and Hickory. Windhorse Relations, Ivins, Utah

Am I safe, or am I not safe? That’s the primary question residing in the mind of a mustang. When the question is present, they look at you — the human, the predator — with one eye, while the other eye is always on the escape route.

Referred to as ‘land dolphins’, mustangs are intelligent and have the capacity to both read energy and love humans in a deeply connected way. That energetic presence that we emit must be pure and authentic though. If we’re scared by the sheer size and perceived unpredictability of the animal, all we need to…

Kelly Campbell

Conscious Leadership and Agency Growth Coach, helping creative leaders become more self-aware, cultivate team trust and lead fully integrated lives.

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