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I realized something the other night. It was late in the evening and I hadn’t slept well the night before, which means I was quickly reaching a state of deliriously tired. As much as I hate not getting adequate quality sleep, I do enjoy that deliriously tired state because it usually brings out my inner child. I act sillier than usual and am more apt to laugh so hard that I cry… likely at nothing.

The delirium began to set in as my boyfriend and I were watching a movie on the couch. I started messing with him like a…


As you get into the personal development (and even spiritual development world), it can be easy to begin to alienate certain parts of yourself. To see them as bad and something to get rid of. We want to change our negative patterns, conquer our limiting beliefs, and quickly get over uncomfortable emotions. We strive to do the work to move through it all… be above it all.

But as I was reminded in a recent podcast interview with Katie Buemann, from a spiritual perspective, denying ourselves any aspect of this human experience — including all the “negative“ — is to…


I’ve been an extrovert for the majority of my life. An outgoing child, I grew into a popular teenager who turned into a party girl for pretty much the entirety of my twenties. I loved being an extrovert. I was proud of it. And to be honest, didn’t understand — or care to understand — introverts. They didn’t make sense to me. How could you possibly want to stay home all the time? Don’t you get bored?

Then something changed in me. It was slow and subtle at first. I started to lose the urge to constantly go out. I…


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We’ve known for quite some time now that a sedentary lifestyle is bad for our health, hence all the wearable devices helping us track and reach our daily step goals. But have you ever wondered how much it really matters, especially if you still get a good workout in at the gym? Well, turns out it may be more important than we realize. It may be a matter of life or death.

Study Links Steps to Living Longer

A new study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association revealed higher daily step counts were associated with lower death…


Self-doubt seems to come with being human, like it is in our DNA. While we may remain confident on the outside, inside we are constantly battling these incessant negative thoughts telling us we aren’t smart enough, attractive enough, funny enough, and on and on. These thoughts creep into our decision-making, preventing us from taking risks, going after our dreams, and living more authentic lives. It takes work to quiet our negative self-talk, but it is possible. Read on for three steps to move your inner dialogue from, “I can’t” to “I can.”

1. Be aware of your thoughts.

Often, self-doubt…


I have a very spiritual side to me. I don’t write about it as frequently and only allude to it here and there on my podcast. Why? I like to believe it’s because I’m still figuring it all out — collecting information and new ways of seeing things before I’m ready to communicate how I feel and what I believe. But I also recognize it could be out of fear that others won’t relate or connect. One day I’m sure I’ll fully step into my spiritual side and share those thoughts more. …


The last several mornings, I’ve started my day with some alone time out on my porch with nothing but my cup of coffee and a notebook to jot down thoughts or ideas so I feel secure that I don’t lose them. (okay, okay — I brought my phone out for one quick second to take this photo.) It’s been a big change of pace for me. For years, the first thing I did upon waking up was down a cup of coffee and head off to workout. And while I’ve been battling a little bit of guilt and angst about…


I’ve done my fair share of drinking. From a couple drinks over happy hour or brunch to late nights stumbling out of the bar at closing time, I’m well versed in the drinking game. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve outgrown the bar scene I once frequented and now focus more on optimizing my health. But I do still like to enjoy some adult beverages from time-to-time so long as it doesn’t come with a side of hungover.

I’ve done a lot of research and experimenting on how to drink responsibly when it comes to hangover prevention. …


Each year brings its own set of blessings, challenges, and lessons to learn and 2019 was certainly no exception. As we head into 2020, I can’t help but reflect on what I’ve accomplished, what I’ve overcome, and the lessons I want to carry with me into the New Year.

Here are my top 20.

1. It’s okay to be a thinker.

Clearly, I am a thinker — a deep thinker, an overthinker, whatever you want to call it. I’m a thinker. And I suppressed and hid that part of me for a long time because I was almost embarrassed about…


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I will admit I have been in my fair share of unhappy relationships. What’s worse, I stayed in them longer than I should have. While they weren’t the happiest of relationships, they weren’t necessarily bad relationships. There was no abuse, no cheating, no blatant disrespect, no crazy amount of arguing. Actually, there was quite a bit of good in those relationships. They treated me well and we had a good time together. …

kacie main

host of The Better You podcast and author of I Gave Up Men for Lent, the story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning

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