My man. While you may or might be right about “Friends” I assure you intellectualism is taking its place in the world.
I may be nobody to many people, but at the same time, I am a godsend to those that need help. Am I a nerd, my wife tells me so, but she knows me intimately. I am a systems integrator and an accountant, yet everyone perceives me as a “possible” construction worker (may be the bald head, may be the tatoos), who looks at things different. My clients listen, my friends listen, and to me that is all I can do, all they can do, and we move forward from that point.
I am not the only one. You are right in all your accounts, the tide is turning, it is only a matter of how long it will take. I have faith in people, and I think they really want to understand.