You do you.
It’s happened to all of us. Had a couple of bad days and suddenly, you’re questioning every decision you’ve ever made and your future is in peril. You’ve start to work with your door closed, withdraw from engaging in prolonged conversations with friends and colleagues and you begin to sport a mean stank face.
Doesn’t everyone realize that everything you thought to be true was dissipating into a cloud of dark, ashy smoke. Chances are no, they probably don’t. And furthermore, it probably isn’t.
I’ve had an epiphany. My ‘aha’ moment. I realized I wasn’t doing myself any favours. By closing my door and avoiding human interaction at all costs, the only person really impacted by my behaviour was me.
I had a choice. I could choose to continue to down the path of self-pity I found myself on or I could do something about it. I chose the latter. Here’s how:
Reflect and move on.
It’s ok to be upset. Hell, it’s ok to be downright pissed off. But get over it. Use each situation as a chance to enhance your perspective. Ask yourself these three questions (then move on):
- What happened?
- How do I feel?
- What am I going to do differently next time?
Tell someone what you want.
Keeping your aspirations to yourself will not set you up for success. Telling someone what you want not only holds you accountable, but it puts what you want out there. You never know who might be listening. You’ll be as successful as you want to commit to. If you don’t know what you want…think about the intersection of what you love and where you excel. Start there.
Control your feelings.
You have absolutely no control over many things you will experience in your lifetime. You can, however, control your feelings and reactions to interactions and experiences. Use every situation that presents itself to you as an opportunity to practice your control.
Don’t compare yourself to those around you, instead compare yourself to the ‘you’ of yesterday. Are you a better person when you woke up this morning than you were 24 hours ago? If not, you need to want to be. You can’t expect others to give you the wins if you aren’t willing to do it yourself.
Share your story.
Use your personal and professional successes to share your story. Verbally, written, interpretive dance…it doesn’t really matter. Get your story out there. You need to be your strongest advocate. If you don’t share your story, who will?