All our lives we have been told that “women are confusing and hard to understand.” The fact of the matter is, we aren’t complex by any means, we just know what we want.

Take this scenario for instance. A dog wants a treat. The problem with this is that the owner doesn't know that. The dog gives all the signs of desire by grabbing the owners attention, hovering around the treat bowl, and eventually trying to retrieve the snack through many failed attempts.

The signs were present, or so the dog thought. Through grabbing the owners attention, she thought the dog wanted to go outside. The dog proceeded and then returned barking for a reward. With another failed assumption, the owner thought the dog wanted to be pet. With enough misguided assumptions, eventually the owner figured out what it was the dog wanted. A measly treat.

We can assume that we know what it is women (or dog in this case) want but are we using the signs provided? You see, we can state that something or someone is complex but are we really analyzing all of the options/ solutions we have before we come to a conclusion?

Before we make the comment of:

“Women are confusing.”

“Females are so passive.”

“Why don’t you just tell me what you want?”

We should really analyze what it is the female wants.

Women are generally the type of people who love and want to be loved. They have high expectations on what they are looking for in a relationship and hope that men act like the guys they see in the typical chick flick.

What I’ve come to realize over the last two and a half years is that no man acts like that. No guy will actually know why you’re upset and he’ll think you’re over dramatic and insensitive when you tell him why. Men don’t understand that saying “I don’t care where we eat” usually equates to “whatever you want is good.” When we say “I’m fine”, we aren’t.

The reason these things are so hard to understand to other people is because they don’t take into account body language, tone of voice, or facial expression.

Women aren’t the problem here… The interpretation people have of women is.

Just like the dog gives the owner signs of when it wants a treat, the average female often does the same when she needs or wants something.

In the end, people know what they want in life. We just need to utilize the signs that we are given in order to process those wants and desires.