92% fail to keep New Year’s Resolutions, be the 8% using a mindset shift!

A recent study shows that only 8% of people will achieve their New Year’s Resolutions. So if you are feeling low, deflated, demotivated, or battling with the guilt of abandoning your New Years Resolutions, then rest assured that you are definitely not alone. You are human, just like the rest of the 92%.

Now I know there will be some people that will feel relieved in knowing this statistic, almost comforted by the knowledge that they are not alone. On the other hand, there is also going to be others who will find it difficult to accept this. They will want to challenge themselves to be the 8%. If that is you, then here are 3 simple steps that can help you to create this shift.

1. Look at your goals. How realistic they are? Are they attainable in the time frame that you want to achieve them in? Are they attainable given your current circumstances?

An example would be someone who is wanting to lose say 10lbs in weight. Now there is nothing wrong with wanting to lose that amount of weight but if you set yourself the goal that I want to lose 10lbs in the next 2 weeks, this is unrealistic as there is not enough time to lose this amount of weight in a HEALTHY way. So you have already set yourself up for a fall.

Similarly, if you are not a morning person and your energy levels are better towards the end of the day, then setting a goal for going for a run every morning at 6am before work is unrealistic. Once again, you have set yourself up for a fall before even starting your goal.

So if you are finding it difficult to achieve your New Years Resolutions then review them and tweak them to make them more realistic. Setting small realistic goals will help you achieve quick wins, which in turn will give you the motivation to keep going.

2. Who does your goal belong to? Is it yours or are you setting this goal because your partner, friend or work colleague have “persuaded” you to do it? Have you set the goal because it feels like the right thing to do? Do you feel that you SHOULD set this goal?

Many of us will set a goal based on the expectations of others rather than setting a goal that is rooted within our heart’s desire. Take a step back, if it is not what you want to do be achieving then you need to revise the goal so that it is more aligned with what you WANT.

3. What is the deeper rooted issue of your goal? We will set goals because we feel that we should look a certain way; feel a certain way; be at a certain stage or phase in our life. These reasons are superficial and not rooted in a deeper belief or value system.

Imagine a sapling which has not yet grown strong roots into the soil, it will be easily swayed and uprooted in comparison to a tree that has stronger roots. In the same manner, your goals need to have deeper roots. Why are you setting the goal? What will it mean for you? What will you gain in the long run as a result of sticking to the goal?

The answers to these questions will be your roots. Anytime you feel demotivated or derailed, refocusing on your roots (answers to the questions above) will help drive you and motivate you to get back on track.

Setting goals using the right mindset is key!

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I’m a Psychotherapist & Mindset Coach specialising in helping individuals overcome stress & anxiety so that they are not holding themselves back from success.

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Kamalynkaur

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I’m a Psychotherapist & Mindset Coach specialising in helping individuals overcome stress & anxiety so that they are not holding themselves back from success.

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