10 Things Smart People Never Say In Public
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” — Plato
The words that come out of our mouths can be interpreted in four ways: positive, negative, neutral, or unclear. Smart, emotionally-mature folks tend to speak in a deliberate, transparent manner; crafting their words to minimize a negative or enigmatic response.
But the truth is that we’ve all said something we’ve regretted. Perhaps our words deeply hurt someone, whether intentional or not. We’ve all had to deal with the horrible “I want to stick my dirty foot into my dirty mouth” feeling.
Yeah, it sucks. It really sucks.
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is defined as “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.” One’s level of EQ is often determinative of how our words are interpreted by someone else.
Furthermore, it is this type of intelligence — not “book smarts” or IQ score — that plays the predominant role in deciding what to say and, just as important, what not to say. EQ is intrinsically linked with social awareness — the ability to decipher the emotions and experiences of other people. In other words, our ability (or inability) to be empathetic.
To avoid the dreaded thoughts and feelings that accompany an impulsive, erratic string of words, it helps to have a basic understanding of things not to say in public.