You are the rule, not the exception.
There’s this movie, “He’s just not that into you”, which walks us through a story line where a guy working at a bar helps one of his customers (a lady struggling in her love life) catch the signs people give out to let you know they are not interested in you.
There are some other characters and their stories playing along as well but this lady is my favorite.
The story shows us how we keep believing that someone likes us back when we like them despite all the big red warnings and clear cut signs. Love can be pretty blinding, huh?
The end breaks my heart a little as this guy and our lady start dating and now I wonder who will help this poor lady read the signs he will give in future. I can already hear the sound of her heart breaking over and over again for him.
The movie do leave us with some good lessons and these should be shared. The main one being: If s/he likes you, s/he will make effort to be with you. If s/he’s not making an effort, s/he’s just not that into you.
No amount of daydreaming and building a world made of delusional bubble wraps will save you from this ultimate truth. The sooner you learn this, the better.
Now that doesn’t necessarily mean that we crazy heads should stop being hopeful or stop loving or caring (because there always are exceptions. Chances are that you are not but that’s something you need to realize on your own) but we should just know when to stop and save ourselves.
So, I will list down a few rules and you add to it from your experience and we do this till we have a list. The list of rules for those you still believe in people.
- No one ever leaves anyone if they don’t want to. Love is literally all we have in this otherwise hopeless world and if someone’s not fighting for you, that’s because they don’t want to.
- Everyone has time for people they want to take out time for. Read that again.
- If they miss you, you will know it through their text/ call. If you don’t hear from them, that’s because this is how they want it to be.
- If they can sleep knowing that you are not okay or safe, they simply don’t care.
- If they can cheat on you once, they can do it forever. Under your nose or on your face.
- If they tell you they don’t love you or care for you, believe them. No one would ever leave you thinking that they don’t love you if they do. Never.
- If they never apologize and you end up blaming yourself for everything, they don’t value or respect you.
Add to these rules and let’s make this place a safer place for not so smart ones. :)