“Red flags are moments of hesitation that determine our destination.” ― Mandy Hale
It’s easy to spot red flags in hindsight.
People who’ve been in a toxic relationship nearly always say the warning signs were there from the start.
But if they felt uneasy about some of their partner’s behaviours, they let them go. They were in love, after all. And they had no idea those behaviours were a sign of where the relationship was heading.
It’s only when you’re on the other side of a toxic relationship, that you allow yourself to acknowledge those early signs.
And there’s a comfort in that. It means you were not completely blind to what was going on. You were trying to make a relationship work. Which makes you normal. …
You have a dream.
You’re committed. You know it’s right for you. You know, that if you can do what’s required, you’ll be wildly successful.
But you can’t quite make it happen. One week you’re on fire, the next you’ve lost your way, filled up with doubt, wondering if it’s a good idea after all.
Look, pandemic-smashed 2020 has been — and still is — a tough year. It’s messed with our careers, finances, mental health, plans to do Big Things. Or even little, fun ones.
And it’s added to the biggest barrier to our success — the thing we struggled with even before Covid jammed itself into the picture: distraction. …
I was at a networking event way back when no-one wore masks.
We were all standing around with a drink pretending to be cooler than we really are. With two big events on in our city at the weekend, one woman asked us all: “which conference are you going to?”
When I gave my reply, she raised an eyebrow: “Really? But that conference is for Ordinary Women.”
I tried, probably not very successfully, to hide my smile. Imagine the horror of spending a weekend with Ordinary people? Imagine the nightmare of being Average?
In a dog-eat-dog world, we’re terrified of being Average. Sick to the stomach with the thought of not making the most of ourselves, of not Making Our Mark on the world. Of not soaring as high as we can soar. …