“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” –Carl Jung
Who are you?
Can you put hand on heart and answer that question fully and truthfully? Or are you still trying to figure it out?
Everyone wants to know themselves better, to Make Sense of Themselves. It’s the key reason people come to therapy.
Often they’ll have a specific problem. But, beyond that, they’ll want to dig down into how they roll in the world: their thoughts, moods, emotions, behaviours, fears, hopes and dreams.
Getting to know yourself is a work in progress — for life. No-one ever gets to shut their personal file and say: “that’s it, job done, I know everything there is to know.” …
“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” — Steve Maraboli
It’s over: you’re free of your toxic relationship.
You know your partner was bad for you. You know you’re in a (way) better place. And, yet, it doesn’t feel as good as it should.
You’re still wrestling with anxiety, sadness, shame — anger. Some nights, after a drink or three, you still find your fingers hovering over your phone wanting to text them.
Welcome to the relationship recovery room. It’s a hard place to land. Toxic relationships can trigger feelings of unworthiness, helplessness, fear, anxiety, depression, insecurity, paranoia and shame. And, if it’s your first experience of toxicity, it strips you of your innocence. …
Each of us has an “operating style” with a relationship.
It’s based on how we approach love, how we interact with another, who we are when we’re with someone else.
Our styles — or archetypes — are a mash-up of our biology, temperament, emotional history, experiences and the feedback the world has tossed at us.
And, of course, one size doesn’t fit all. People are not absolute so, while one style tends to dominate, we all spill over the edges into other categories.
But when we understand how we function within relationships, we’re better placed to be in them — and to answer questions…