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3 main reasons for relationship break-ups and how to solve them

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We encounter countless problems in our relationship and marriages, every day or once in a while. You don’t need to solve them all one by one. Some fundamental issues are the real threat to a relationship. If you can address them, other problems will either disappear or become insignificant, and you will have a peaceful relationship.

Here are the main reasons for break-ups and how to solve them:

1. Money Problem:

Money is the root cause of relationship break-ups. More than two third of Americans in relationships say that finances problems cause more tension in a relationship than their sex life does, according to CNBC.

Another survey conducted by Slater & Gordon over British finds that money worries are the main reason why married couple separates. Money problems mean:

Having problems paying bills
Affecting your ability as a parent
Reduced comfort and entertainment
Worries about the future

As a result, you can’t think about love, romance, and sex. Certainly, a relationship would not function.

Solution:

You must involve your partner in your economic plans and decisions.
Many couples have little knowledge about other’s finances.

You have to know how much your partner earns, how many financial assets and liabilities your partner has.

You have to open up with each other completely. Show your partner credit card and bank statements, loan balances, and tax statements. Ask your partner do the same.

When you live in a relationship, the individual budget does not make any sense. Make combined accounts and family budget together.

If both partners are involved in all economic plans, one could not blame another if things go wrong. In this case, the downturn of finances will have less effect on the relationship.

2. Problem: Mismatched libidos:

Partners in a relationship can be a sexual mismatch. Continuing a functional relationship without a good sex life is difficult.
The common problem is, partners in the relationship have a very different level of sexual interests and libido. If a partner wants to engage in sexual activity very regularly, but the other partner has less sex drive, then it could be a frustrating situation.

Solution:

To end a relationship because of sexual reasons is unsympathetic.
The foundation of a relationship is based on love, compassion, and devotion. Sex is undoubtedly an essential part of the relation.

The sexual mismatch means different levels of sex drive between the partners. It does not mean the complete absence of sex.

The one who is more sexual in a relationship must compromise. We do comprise many other things with unknown people. Why can’t we compromise and sacrifice for persons we love.

My wife had less sex drive after our children are born. We don’t have many opportunities to make love when children are around. I adjusted my sexual desires taking consideration to the family.

I try to divert my sexual desires to something else. I use my sexual energy to write something creative.

Physical intimacy without sex would not help much. These intimacies only prompt the more sexual partner sexually aroused. That will give backlash.

You can do many nonsexual entertaining acts. You two can be more engaged in outdoor activities like jogging, swimming and walking on the beach. If you have children, then go out for a picnic, go to a park, watch a film in a cinema hall.

Don’t think like Freud that all our acts are driven by sex. You can be inspired by love and affection.
You can listen to music, you can work out, you can also work out.

3. Problem: Physical attraction Fading:

I know many men who are attracted to any other women than their wives. Their wives are more beautiful than other women they are attracted to. 
Women may think in the same way as men do. They also can lose their attraction to their husbands.

This is a deciding moment of a relationship and an excruciating one.
Before marriage, a man adores his wife and vice versa.
After marriage, they don’t find one another attractive. Gradually, partners don’t want to have intimate times.
Lack of attraction often leads to adultery.

Solution:

You can’t solve the issue by analyzing the problems. Most of the time there is no reason why you have lost the desire for your partner. It is a mainly mental matter.

Sometimes women became fat after giving birth. Men become obsessed eating unhealthy food.

Today, you are disliking your wife because she has become fat. What if, tomorrow you can become chronically sick.

You cant be greedy and selfish in a relationship.

A relationship is not only about appearance and sex. Love, emotion, dedication, sincerity and commitments matter.

One partner can lose a job, can be sick, even can lose beauty. You have to uphold your humanity, human values.

When you lose attraction your partner, then be a better human. Remember about your commitment to a partner. Show your integrity, your honesty, and your human side.

All positive thoughts will help you to be attached with your partner.