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And I’ve Finally Had the Strength to Write About it

It seems as though few people discuss how recovering from narcissistic programming deeply transforms you. It’s like becoming unrecognizable to everyone who knew you when you operated under the defunct coding.
For those of you who have read through my articles here on Broken Flower Pots and have chosen to follow me, it may seem like my mission and point of view have changed drastically. Well, here’s the truth — it has.

When I began writing here on Medium, I was in stage one of recovery. Still dealing with victimhood…


It’s uncommon for most survivors of narcissistic programming to turn inward when they beginning moving through recovery. After all, when faulty programming and manipulation happens to us early in life, we are going to turn to the people who were once responsible for our well-being. But that’s the thing. No one is responsible for our overall health but us. We have the power now. Putting that power elsewhere is futile and will ultimately prolong the journey to full recovery.

There is one important reason to turn inward when entering into your second phase of recovery from narcissistic programming. It may…


One of the most beautiful aspects of the human condition is duality. We are light and shadow, still and mobile, feminine and masculine. No matter the position, the situation, the event, or point of attraction there is always at least one other option. There is another side or aspect we can imbue.

Energy is not gender-specific. Both men and women have feminine energy. Both men and women have masculine energy. In dysfunctional relationships, there is typically a “dance” between, in this case, the narcissist and the empath. In terms of energy, we can attribute narcissism to the masculine and empathic…


It’s fair to say that when I began my healing from narcissistic programming, I became hypersensitive to the behaviors of everyone, especially those close to me. Something paradoxically happens when your consciousness is cracked wide open. When revelations kick the doors of your blockages wide open. The good side — you can finally move on, and work towards living a fulfilling life. The challenging side — you read into everything. You notice things that you did not before, and this can send you into a self-imposed prison of ruminating thoughts. …


There seems to be a surge of content on the topic of soulmates and twin flames. Some argue that soulmates are vastly different than twin flames. Others use the term interchangeably. No matter your personal beliefs on these terms, there is something gravely important to realize when describing a soulmate relationship or “twin flame journey.”

Holistic healers, intuitive guides, spiritual workers, and the like will say that a twin flame may come in and out of your life, “triggering” you to make changes or look within. When twin flames can be in a union, it’s after they’ve done enough healing…


While not everyone is a malignant narcissist, everyone is susceptible to being negatively affected by one. Over the course of our lives, we have plenty of encounters, some brief, some long-term. The relationships we build are placed in categories that society has determined for us. Friendships (platonic), relatives, soulmates, twin flames, marriage partners, work relationships, business partnerships, simple acquaintances. I’m sure I missed a few.

For those of us raised in narcissistic homes, we’ve most likely encountered narcissism in almost all of the above categories. This is partially due to the programming we received in early childhood. Even if you…


I’ve discussed on my Instagram page in a series I coined, ‘Two Cents Tuesdays,’ the meaning of The Tower in tarot. The Tower is one of the major arcana cards in all tarot decks and signifies a sharp, painful, but significant event. In the traditional Rider Waite tarot deck, The Tower card is an image of a light tower that has been struck by lightning, forcing the people inside to plunge to the earth below.

What does this remind you of? Let me offer you a few hints. Devaluation, blameshifting, explosive behavior, etc. etc. These are all a part of…


On a soul level

If you were raised in a narcissistic home, then you have probably found yourself living your life to please your parents. Compliance was the means of survival during childhood. When one or both parents are disordered, the dynamic of the home is adult-centered. With that, we are conditioned to act according to the guidelines set by those adults. Not who we are as individuals.

For children to develop a healthy sense of self and strong confidence, they need to be properly mirrored. That means they need to be acknowledged for who they are, not the rules…


I’ve been on my healing journey for almost two years as of the date of this article. I went no contact with the “head abuser” of my family in 2018 and set boundaries with other family members in 2019. I’ve dove into a myriad of texts, YouTube channels, podcasts, and blogs that I found helpful to me. And they were. I finally could define the patterns and behaviors of my family system. But there was actually a huge limitation with this breakthrough. I had only kickstarted my recovery from a left-brain, intellectual perspective. The heart-centered aspects, I had left untouched.


Greetings kindred souls,

I’m sending you healing energy as you continue working through your shifts during this collective pause.

In my last message to you, I mentioned pivoting to a new publication as I have shifted in my level of consciousness. As we approach the new moon in Scorpio this week, I could say I’ve experienced the death of an old self.

The new publication, The Sacred Mindset Recovery Lab, is a representation of rebirth during my recovery. I’m hoping you will also find it valuable. …

Karin M. Yearwood

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