Amazing write up — is there a place to read the other 2 that isn’t Medium-subscription based? At the risk of sounding (being) cheap: I’m out of ‘free’ reads for the month, but dying to read the other two you have!
Ah! I’ve been looking for something to do this — I play tennis competitively, and after a tough point I like to see where my heart rate gets to. But then sitting waiting for it to update in the middle of a match isn’t possible…going to try this out today. Thanks!
This is so important — this happened for me, but really in reverse. I was the one who was broken down, and my parents drove 3 hours to meet me at college, just to sit with me for dinner. I don’t remember what we talked about — but I remember having a choice of letting them in, or shutting them out.
People make jokes about family only coming together for weddings, holidays or funerals — but it’s a tragic shortcoming that I think will only intensify as the current elderly generation endures the most difficult social transition in the history of mankind.
So sorry for your loss, and a beautiful post. Time with loved ones is far and away the thing that moves me the most, and because it’s SO similar to your post, I want to share a short fictional film I made on this topic: “Busy But Good”. It’s an expression of my deepest fear, in hopes of helping both myself and others avoid it.
An interesting spin on the power of saying ‘no’, which I agree whole heartedly is incredibly valuable. However! There is also power in the freedom money earns you — I say yes to many projects because I know it allows me to go full force in another direction without living on hopes and prayers. With money, you buy back time. You avoid desperation. You…