Content writer during the day, dark high-fantasy writer at night

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I once joked that I want to go to therapy purely because I love talking about myself. I was 14 at the time and was an insufferably arrogant teen, as you can imagine.

Eventually, I did go to therapy, but not because I wanted to talk about myself, but rather because I stopped wanting to (believe it or not, it was a red flag that’s something is not quite right).

I grew up in the capital of a small country in Europe, where people are conservative, cold, and judgmental. …

Spoiler alert — daddy issues don’t exist

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It’s been over six months since I started seeing my therapist when I finally decided that I was ready to talk about my daddy issues.

It was a gloomy evening as I was sitting in my therapist’s office, feeling anxious on the sofa opposite her. I was about to open the Pandora box I’ve been waiting to open for many years. I could almost taste the freedom and peace that would come with unleashing the daddy issues dragon.

You see, since my early teenage years, I have been keeping a mental note, where I would put things on for a…

Learning to handle rejection and not let it ruin your mental health will change your career

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Editor’s note: We do not intent to give medical advice in this article. Please reach out to a professional if you are struggling.

I don’t need to tell you that being a writer comes with tons of rejection. This is the first thing I’ve learned when I first decided that I want to be a writer when I was still a child. However, the funny thing about rejection is that you don’t quite understand how hard it is and how much it hurts until it slams you right in the face for the very first time.

If, as a writer…

Finding a reason to wake up in the morning did

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Yesterday my friend told me that she listened to this podcast episode on productivity, and it reminded her of me and how I’m the person that’s truly living life the right way.

I laughed, giving her a million reasons why I haven’t been productive this week and telling her that I’m definitely not a role model.

However, this morning, during my walk, I decided to listen to the said podcast episode and see how many of those productivity hacks I am actively using in my day-to-day life.

So, while I was speed walking in the -11C weather, I listened to…

Men are not as primitive when it comes to their sex drive as we like to think

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Before James (let’s call this guy James for the sake of this article, k?) ever made his first move on me, we had known each other for almost six months.

We worked together in this posh bar, and technically he was my superior. I liked him from the very first day because he was handsome, tall, and charming. All girls in that place liked James.

While I did find him attractive and didn’t shy away from flirting here and there, I mostly relied on him as a good friend. …

Passion is a volatile thing, and it can do as much damage to you as it can do good

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So, you’re a writer. Or you dream of being one. Congratulations, you’re one of those folks who love torture and pain — welcome to the club.

It’s possible that what led you to this part of your life is your passion for writing. You’ve been blessed to find your calling, something that makes your body tingle with excitement and gives you butterflies in your stomach. Being passionate about your craft is the best feeling in the world.

People tend to think that passion is the highest thing that only very lucky people can pursue, and that’s it’s all butterflies and…

Sexuality is a complex thing, but most of the time, it’s not even about sexuality at all

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Go to any nightclub, and you’ll find at least a couple of friend groups of straight women who are making out with each other just for funsies.

I am going to be honest — I used to be one of those women. I’ve made out with most of my friends in high school, and I’ve kissed so many women I genuinely lost count. Yet, I identify as straight and don’t do it for the sake of being sexually attracted to another woman.

You might wonder, well, why the hell do straight women kiss other women if not because they want…

It’s not as hard as you might think, gentlemen

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I think we can all agree that sex education in America and around the world had failed us. We’re not encouraged to explore our own pleasure, and bodies let alone educate ourselves on the pleasure of the opposite sex.

But knowing your own pleasure and what turns on the opposite sex is crucial for the best sexual experience. Let’s be honest, who doesn’t like mind-blowing sex?

I feel like men are always told that women are so complex and that our pleasure is an encrypted map they have to decipher. …

Here is my step by step process and everything you need to know as a fiction writer

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Yesterday I sent out my first batch of queries to five literary agents. This morning I woke up to two rejections waiting for me in my email inbox. As a writer, I am used to rejection, and I was prepared for more of it choosing to pursue traditional publishing. But it still stung, I’m not going to lie.

Until last fall, I didn’t even dare to think about writing fiction again and trying to become a published fiction author. I am a writer, and I chose this path because I love to write. But you see, just as much as…

You’re not an artist creating art — you’re a businesswoman, and your writing is your product

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When you meet someone new, they ask you what you do for a living, and when you say that you’re a writer, they usually give you one of the two responses:

  • They either ask you the question again, thinking that you misunderstood their question and thought they were asking about your hobbies.
  • Or they give you that polite silence break, then a nod and “oh, how interesting!” response while thinking that you either come from a rich family, or you’re a broke artist.

Of course, I’m just joking — we’re not living in the ’90s anymore, and people are way…

Karolina Wilde

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