Tennis skirts, wigs, and Halloween

Not long ago I wrote a piece about how I don’t care for drag. Some folks agreed with me and some didn’t. Since then I have done something I’ve only been able to do since I started transitioning. I did a deep dive into my core, to try to understand…

Buck, Chad, or Sterling?

I’m no spring chicken at 59. As a middle-aged transgender woman, I haven’t felt desirable for a very long time. I’m happy to be living with my wife of decades, hoping for a closer relationship even though my relatively late transition has challenged us. …

What do you think I should do?

I’m a transgender woman who loves tennis

Recently, I found myself too far along in my transition to keep up physically with the men my age I used to play with. My record plunged to an abysmal 0–16. I still have the competitive drive and willingness to learn, but after years of HRT, hormone replacement therapy, my…

Que será será

When we start our transition we always fear the worst. I’ll never pass. But what if passing isn’t necessary for fulfillment? What if you could achieve your goals through self improvement and acceptance? This is by no means scientific, but I believe you get what your give. If love oozes…

Transpragmatism

So I made up a word. Transpragmatism: The understanding that some trans girls feel like they have nothing to lose and frequently opt for a disruptive transition.

I and many like me, conversely, have stuff to lose. Frankly, that is what has kept us in the closet for decades.

My…

I was put on this earth to be a parent

Last week I wrote about how I Stayed Married After My Transgender Transition. I mentioned I loved parenting, so I figured I’d better write more about that, starting from when I was an 18-year-old sailor in love with a beautiful girl.

My girlfriend was a pregnant single woman in the…

The bad is bad but the good can be wonderful

Frequently, we read stories about how awful gender dysphoria can be. It can be emotionally crippling and affect every aspect of your life negatively. Also, many of us face prejudice and harassment and all too often face homelessness and death. …

My first dress

I had “hand me down “ dresses before, they never fit and were never cute. I recently got a super adorable gold bodycon dress from a super sweet friend of my daughter. It’s gold and so amazing and size 6 . On a good day I can…

Can you do it too? Maybe if you really want it.

I’m a transgender woman who didn’t start to transition until later in life. I’m still married to my teenage sweetheart, the woman I raised children with. Staying together hasn’t been easy, but we both want it, and we’ve managed. People ask me sometimes how we do it, so let me…

With stories to tell!

I am old, queer and now finally, I am out. Growing up in the 70’s was difficult for me. I had a secret, a secret I swore I would take to the grave. I looked like a normal boy, but I wasn’t normal by any means. I have always thought…

Kitty Whitemore

I like people (mostly). I hope they like me too!

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