Social Media Takes Over The Mind

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Jul 25, 2017 · 6 min read

Social media has had the biggest input into causing my anxiety to get increasingly worse and i wanted to write this blog as i love writing. I love expressing how i feel in writing because it helps me, and maybe someone will come across this and it will help you too.

Just imagine of one second, for one minute imagine having your social media be true to you. Show your weaknesses, share your struggles.

Instead of:

1,775 followers, pictures of a perfect relationship, family, edited selfies, fun times had with friends. The ‘perfect life’ which each and everyone of us is guilty of portraying. What if that was gone, what of instead of the fake happiness slapped on with filters and filters we gave the truth on who we are, and not what we hide behind being on social media. Instead of the above, what if the below came true.

Even the look of that, the bio, the thought of people who know me ONLY through social media seeing the fact I struggle with day to day life scares the living hell out of me, and fills me with panic. But that’s just it, why do we care so deeply about the thoughts of what others see us as, if they only see us through a screen. You notice the followers have gone? What if you ONLY followed people you truly know, how many of our numbers what drop? And what would happen if this was what social media looked like, would we support each other? Would we still fight, but no longer for who has a more perfect life, but fight for who suffers what worse?

Who would you still have in your selected few followers if this was the case, family? A hand full of friends?

Would the people who bullied me and caused me the anxiety to not be able to walk through Bedford town centre feel remorse?

If everyone’s social media was set to who they really are, not what people view them as, would we see everyone as weak. Would the girl with depression be worse than the girl who has anorexia? Everyone fights to show the happiest life ever lived through social media, would this be the same if everyone showed who they truly are. Would we be fighting for who has it worse, or would we be sportive? You decided.

I am the biggest committer of this crime, I portray my life as if nothing could be better. I have a happy relationship, family photos, selfies for days, shopping trips, spa’s everything good in my life shown in the best way possible. But how many times did it take to get that perfect selfie? How many times did my family and I pose for the same photo fake laughing to get the effect we love each other? How many filters does a photo need until it’s acceptable for the world who don’t know me, to see? How many photos do I not share, where I am crying in my room with fear of the world outside my door, how many photos do I not show where the truth lays? What would your bio, your snapchat, your facebook status show?

Anxiety is more common than you know, I only learnt this after starting to talk about mine.

- Emma stone

- Jennifer Lawrence

- Sarah Silverman

- Beyoncé

- Adele

- Chris Evans

- Kirsten Stewart

- Ellie Goulding

People suffer, people struggle. No matter who you are, I believe social media is such a big contributor to the fact so many young people suffer so strongly with anxiety. Throughout my whole life I have acted I have been the happiest person in the world, I had work colleagues and friends say to me ‘I’ve never known someone so happy’ and I just think, if only you knew. I have recently given up my job, due to the fact each day I was struggling to get into work. Some days would be ok, some I couldn’t leave my house no matter how much I fort what my head tells me. I know, I sound like a proper mental case don’t I? but it’s true, people who don’t suffer from anxiety will struggle to relate to someone who can’t do something because their body won’t let them, but just try and imagine your body stopping something, that your brain is trying so hard to do? Imagine living a day to day life where this is the case, where you fight constantly, but only with yourself, to do day to day jobs. It’s tiring and hard, and it’s the life I live. I have now given up my job, this was the first time I had told a employee I suffered from high anxiety and you know what? I’m so glad I did, I have never been so supportive and helped through a struggling time. Although they where just fantastic to me, I felt I owed it to them to leave so they could find full time cover and not having to cope with the added stress and pressure of finding someone to cover my shift the days I cannot get in. although I am angry at myself for giving up, I know I need to get myself strong before I commit to a job. So that’s my little story, now I’m on another journey, focusing on getting myself strong, and I want the world to know once I get through to the other side how much of a boss I am.

Anxiety? Completed it mate.

A strong mind = a strong body.

I aim to get myself strong, to get back on my feet and study anxiety, I will not let my anxiety beat me as much as it tries too. I want to help young people with anxiety too. I want to learn all about how and why the brain does make life 10x harder for us to cope with, I want to make sure schools explain and teach about anxiety. I was never helped throughout school with my anxiety. No one really got or understood my brain, until I was much older. And still now, people can’t get how the brain can control your body in certain situations. I want to help all the people I can with learning to cope with anxiety,

my strategies and methods and ensure everyone isn’t scared or put of by you, because you have anxiety, or any mental health problem. It needs to be spoken about and be out there, people go through shit. Life is shit sometimes, but only the strongest get through it.

So, what if your Instagram showed a true you. What if Instagram posted a photo a day at a set time, set moment no matter what state. No filter, no fake you. Would you be terrified to share this? What if you couldn’t decide what got posted or didn’t, what if people saw you for WHO YOU REALLY ARE BEHIND A SCREEN. Does this make your skin crawl? It makes mine just typing it.

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