So, I forgot your Birthday… Again.
There are a lot of things a person can do wrong in a relationship. Like a lot!
Being mindful of another person’s feelings is hard work. And you have to pay a lot of attention to learn what triggers’ a person has! But I am fairly certain one of the easiest ways to hurt a partner’s feelings, well mot people’s feelings, is by forgetting their birthday.
You’d think, that little reminder in your calendar would make remembering easier. But nope.
Or maybe setting an alarm, the day of, that verbally reminds you to wish your love a, hey I’m so glad you were born today! You make my life so much better reminder.
Nearly five years in, and I still can’t seem to get the birthday thing down. The worst part, my love is not even special in this respect. And I mean this in the best possible way. I promise. But forgetting birthdays seems like a major pillar of my personality.
Take my mom for example, the woman who birthed me, I forget her birthday Every. Single. Year. Want a sure fire way to piss your over dramatic mother off, forget her birthday. Works every time. Although, she loses her shit every year when I forget so I don’t really feel bad. Like her shitty reaction negates my shitty memory. Balance right.
My best friend of 15 years, yup 15 years, I don’t even know when her birthday is. I am convinced her birthday is October 25. Like in my soul I am sure this is her birthday. She tells me, every year, her birthday is October 26th. And every year I’m pretty sure she is fucking with me. Like I seriously am so sure it is the 25th I argue the point. And just in case you’re wondering, it is not smart to get in a verbal war with your bestie about when her birthday is. Nope, don’t do it!
I could sit here and tell you I wish I was better with dates and remembering important life events more often. But I would be lying. Now don’t get me wrong. My intention is not to hurt the people I love. And I genuinely feel bad when I hurt their feelings. But I’ve never been a fan of inflating the amount of love, or affection, or attention for a person (myself included) because it’s a certain day of the year. Now I recognize this is a fairly unpopular opinion so you don’t have to agree with me in the least. But, I believe it’s our job as a decent human being to love our loves to our fullest capacity Every.Single.Day.
Yes, I forgot your birthday. But not because I don’t love you. Actually, if you think about it, I forgot your birthday because I love you the most. Am I right?
So please me forgive me, everyone I have ever forgotten, and everyone I will surely forget for forgetting your birthday.