Almost everybody thinks of themselves as self-aware. They think they know how they feel and what they want and what their problems are. But the truth is that very few people really do. And those that do will be the first to tell how fickle self-awareness is and how much alone time it takes to get there.
The reason why this is such a challenge for people to learn and accept — and why it often times takes a lifetime — is because the ego always promises safety. The ego promises avoidance of hurt, it promises instant gratification, and it promises acceptance.