Fair enough!
Jesse Kerema


It depends on what kind of goal we’re talking about.

For “chore” type goals, I know that when I get them done, I get rid of the nagging pilot lights that drain my energy.

For big, hairy life goals, I remain vague. As in, my current career goal is to make my living doing things I love. No time line, no specifics. So far, I know I love writing and facilitating workshops, affirmed every time I do these things. I also thought I loved coaching, but I’m now finding it’s not a passion, at least not for pay. I am open and hopeful that more passionate activities I can’t even dream of, will show up.

In the middle are regular type goals. For example, I have a project to do for some people I really want to support. It’s work I love for people I love. Still, if I set a goal around it, like I’ll have x amount done by y date, I have then to battle with internal tension and judgement which drains me. Instead, I stay in the place of being happy to be involved and excited about what the project will reveal and it becomes more like reading a good book.

Sounds like maybe you like to compete. Set a goal for yourself and then meet or exceed it? For me, competition just adds stress.

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