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You don’t get what you want, you get what you need

The Law of Attraction is easier than we think, but most of us don’t notice when the Universe throws opportunities at us. We think our desires will come to us in an obvious way and sometimes they do.

But for the most part, people try controlling the process because they don’t trust that the Universe will deliver. There are usually three ways manifesting pans out:

  1. You get exactly what you ask for.
  2. You get something but it’s not quite what you wanted.
  3. Everything feels like it's gone to hell in a handbasket.

Here’s what you need to know about manifesting what you want. …

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The pain of being told your sexuality is the problem — when you know it’s not.

Heterosexual couples have it easy, compared to LGBTQ couples. I’ve had boyfriends, and I’ve had girlfriends. Bringing home a man is far easier than bringing home a woman.

Especially when your family are ‘traditional’ or religious.

When you bring a boyfriend home, it’s a little nerve-wracking. “Gosh, I hope my family likes him!” But for the most part, it’s easy. You know it’ll be fine.

Yet, the thought of bringing home a woman stirs up a paralysing fear within you. The fear of being disowned, verbally, or even physically, abused by family members is very real.

My family liked my ex-boyfriend. But when I told two of my close relatives that my ‘friend’ was my (then) girlfriend — they went from liking her to hating her in a hot-minute. …

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Lessons learned from lugging around emotional baggage.

Who hasn’t got emotional baggage? Most of us have lugged it around from relationship to relationship at one point or another. But if we don’t sort through our baggage, it can slowly poison our relationships.

As a 20-year-old, I projected my attachment issues onto my then-girlfriend. It rapidly destroyed the relationship, but I didn’t own up to my shit because I didn’t recognise I had baggage.

Over the years, I’ve realised relationships are mirrors reflecting our subconscious trauma to us. If we can learn to see it from this perspective, we can free ourselves from our reactive patterns.

Acknowledging your past baggage

If you’re reacting to your partner, or whoever, ask yourself “is this really about what they’ve done, or am I feeling triggered?” …


Kathrine Meraki

Brb just following my heart | Content on attachment, self-employment & mindset | Substack & Instagram: https://linktr.ee/Kmeraki

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