Three weeks ago, I received a text message from my ex-partner. It went something like this:
“Hi Kathryn. I hope this message finds you well and doesn’t come as too much of a disruption. I’m going through a hard time right now and I’m really struggling. I was wondering if we could chat sometime? I totally understand if you don’t want to.”
After 18 months of no contact, seeing his name pop up on my phone made time stand still for a moment.
It felt a bit like staring at the lid of Pandora’s Box. …
It was a very surreal moment. After having no contact for 18 months there I was, sat in my former home, holding my ex-partners hand while he cried.
Life sure can throw us some curveballs.
While it was weird to find myself there with him, I hadn’t hesitated. When he called to say he was struggling and needed someone to be with him, I went.
He was having thoughts of taking his own life. …
Busting a gut in your relationship but it’s still not where you want it to be? There’s nothing more frustrating than giving something your all and feeling like it doesn’t seem to be moving the needle even a smidgen in a positive direction.
Maybe you make your partner chicken soup when they’re sick, do the dishes when they don’t have time, fill up the gas tank in their car when you notice it’s running close to empty and make their lunch when you know they have a big day at work.
And yet, while they appreciate what you do, it doesn’t seem to bring the two of you any closer. …