What’s your attachment style?

Everyone wants a great relationship. Relationships are such a major part of our lives.

Apparently there is always something to learn about oneself. Attached by Amir Levine, MD and Rachel Heller, we currently find ourselves quite “unattached”. The premise is to examine the theory of adult attachment — what effects personality, child development, parenting and romantic relationships have on the individual’s attachment style. Sounds interesting, doesn’t it?

It’s healthy to pick up a book every once in a while that you are hesitant to read or suspect you may not agree with 100%. …


What it feels like to be (unwillingly) off my meds

I shake out the last blue pill of the bottle. Hmm, I thought I had a few left. The past few days have been so busy with work and travel I hadn’t thought to check on my refills. I check my phone. That’s strange. There is no RX text reminder from my pharmacy. I’ll give it another day.

Day 1

I wake up to a text alert telling me my prescription will be filled on Monday by noon. I don’t have any spare pills laying around — but I have missed a…


How to Stop Confusing Who You Look Like With Who You Are

Women know mirrors.

I have spent a decade aware of reflective surfaces. I seek them out in restaurants, city streets, shopping windows.

When I find them I often feel a sensation that we as women are all too familiar with: a mixture of relief, indifference, hope and a little despair. I know this sensation can change in small ways in the coming years, but for many of us, it doesn’t.

We all have bodies. But many of us are also chasing a question that comes with that body…


It’s a whole new DECADE!

NYE for most people has always been a time to manifest what we want to accomplish for the next 12 months, but this year it’s a whole new decade, and, WHAT A DECADE this past one has been!

We are in a crucial time of change, with many of us dissatisfied with the status quo in terms of ecology, government, education, how we live, work and consume. In 2019 we decided we wanted to make a meaningful impact and be deliberate and ecological in all that we do. We want to work fewer hours, on…


And how to invite authentic transformation into our lives.

In my last post I wrote about the importance of self-awareness and how it has the ability to change your life. The reason self-awareness is so important is that it allows you to know what your body, mind and spirit is craving in order to live a fulfilling life. To be self aware means delving into our thoughts, feelings, emotions, and sensations to understand what’s there.

In this post, I want to share the secret of achieving and increasing your self-awareness.

Meditation. Mindful meditation is the very best way to re-connect…


And How It Has the Ability to Change Your Life.

The other day I got upset over something that triggered really difficult feelings with deep roots from my past.

In short, someone I love made a reasonable request that I didn’t want to honor, partly because I felt this person wasn’t taking my feelings into account. And partly because I was too focused on my ego and being right to listen.

This is a pattern for me.

For most of my life, I have seen everything as a battle — everyone else against me. Though I’ve learned to recognize others…


People don’t want their lives fixed. Nobody wants their problems solved. Their dramas. Their distractions. Their stories resolved. Their messes cleaned up. Because what would they have left? Just the big scary unknown.” — Tender Branson, (Survivor) by Chuck Palahniuk

Have you ever noticed that the human spirit thrives on drama?

It seems counter-intuitive, because we are always saying things like “I hate drama” or “I just don’t need that drama in my life,” but we also line up to see movies where the hero has to fend off the villain, or a young person is faced with a grim…


Talk about getting out of your comfort zone!

Pictured: Not me

As the line progressed towards the massive tent which housed the Dr. Bronner’s Foam Experience, I felt a sense of excitement as well as nervousness at the idea of stripping down to my birthday suit in front of all these people. My boyfriend and our friend, Izzy, stood in line beside me chatting enthusiastically as I read the signs that lined the path towards the entrance that read “Nudity not Lewdity” and expressed the importance of consent and respect among each other. …


You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.

There are few things scarier, especially in the dating world, than the fear of being alone. But if you, like many people, worry about winding up alone or not having a support system when you don’t have a romantic partner, it can actually hold you back from finding real happiness. And settling for a relationship that doesn’t truly satisfy you just because you’re afraid to be on your own can sometimes be even worse than being alone in the first place.

Yes, accepting being alone can feel lousy —…


I dated a narcissist. Naively, I’d hoped that, with enough effort and honest communication or if I was ‘good enough’, supportive enough, cut ties with the friends he didn’t like, if I was creative enough, pretty enough, successful enough, sexy enough, I could help him through all his anger and our love would eventually conquer all.

But I was wrong.

In truth, he was addicted to his need to be in control. He paraded me around for his image, devoured me whole and spat me out…as punishment for being “weak” enough to love him. That relationship was a total mind…

Kathy Wong

Recent transplant from NYC to LA. Breathwork Teacher & Coach. Founder of Impact Breathwork IG: @kathywon

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