It is the ultimate irony that until you do stand still and allow yourself to fully feel the absolute cold, full force brunt of the pain you are experiencing, it never does really heal. Kind of like many sports injuries, if you don’t treat it right and give it time to heal — it may never regain it’s full strength again. So, as hard as it is , this is why if you do not turn to tranquilizers, alcohol or a sudden, new relationship to get you through the pain, but you just stand there and feel it, you will heal more completely and so much faster. The other way you just camouflage the pain , barely covering it over for a brief time. Then when the next hurt comes , it rips the bandage off the original pain as well and you must then deal with both wounds at once. The longer you run from it, the more that stack up until you find yourself unable to function anymore, turning to addictions and bad relationships trying to stave off the inevitable result — the hard truth that you have to face and feel the pain, mourn and grieve in order to ever heal and grow beyond it.. It is how we are made.
So much dysfunction and unhappiness in the world could be helped or avoided if everyone understood the reasons they are stuck and not growing and the necessity of working through our pain and not hiding from it.
