How could you?

I truly will never understand how someone can help produce a child and then want nothing to do with it once it’s born. How could you not want YOUR own child?

I’ve been struggling by trying to figure out how my biological dad (we will call him Scott) could just help produce me and then not want anything to do with me after I was given up for adoption.

Scott has a total of six kids (including me) that I’m aware of. I haven’t met or do I know any of their names. I have heard from my bio. mother that “Scott” isn’t and has never been a good father to the kids he has now, so I’m not missing out on much. She says she’s glad I have the father I have now because he’s more of a man and father than Scott will and could ever be.

How could you give your kid up for adoption and never search/try to reach out to them, but can raise five children of your own? I guess it’s really not “raising” them if you’re a shit-bag of a father, but you know what I mean.

I’m having a hard time letting this sit with me. I can’t fathom the fact of the sitution and how someone could do something so cold-hearted and selfish.

It’s not like I’m looking for a relationship of any sort, but it would be nice to know that I’m wanted or at least being looked for.

I feel more betrayed than anything. That Scott can raise five children, but not give a damn about the one child you gave away? It baffles me.

Sperm donor. That’s all he is. But my question to my sperm donor I would have IF I ever got the chance to meet/talk with him would be, How could you?

How could you give your child up and not give a single damn about who they are, where they are, how they are, or what they’re doing.

That person is a piece of you, literally. Half of your DNA. I don’t understand and I don’t think I ever will.