An ESFJ Personality
In my previous post, I wrote how I was spending more and more time taking recommendations from those around me, whether it be a book, the most reliable coding forum, a new cafe for pancakes, or perspective.
My close friend, whom I find intelligent, inspiring and generally extremely smart (apparently you are the company you keep, so I’m convinced if I spend enough time with her, I’ll absorb her good traits) suggested that I read around personality types.
The Myer’s and Briggs Type Indicator Personality Test is extremely useful as it makes it easier for us to understand our behaviour, strengths and weaknesses and the reasons that we do things. I’d highly recommend you take the test and find out about your personality type (it takes no longer than 20 minutes).
ESFJ Personality Type (“The Consul”)
Having taken a few tests to confirm, I have a ESFJ personality type. Typically, this came as no surprise: as an ESFJ, I am committed, loyal and I prioritise and easily maintain relationships with loved ones, generally speaking. Organisation is mentioned a fair few times within the research; I like to make plans and generally stick to them.
ESFJs continue to enjoy supporting their friends and loved ones, organizing social gatherings and doing their best to make sure everyone is happy.
That being said there are weaknesses to being an ESFJ. Myself and the other 12% of the population who are ESFJ, do find criticism challenging at times (although I am learning to take it constructively), and perhaps “try to establish value with doting attention, something that can quickly overwhelm those who don’t need it” (something which I have experience of). I always considered myself emotionally intelligent, however, I am beginning to learn that not everyone will want or need to invest in certain things the way that I do.
It’s interesting to read about personality types, those that compliment and clash with one another, and how to work with and build relationships with certain types of personalities.