A Letter To My Future Daughter

Kayle Blackmore
Jul 10, 2017 · 3 min read

Dear future daughter of mine,

This whole letter thing is odd because I am currently 19 and can barely take care of myself, but I think in a few years I’ll figure it out.

First of all, welcome to the world. Please don’t take it for granted. Appreciate the trees, clouds, sun, moon, dirt, flowers, and people around you, for they will not be here forever. NEVER, I repeat, NEVER litter. Treat the earth like your best friends house. Explore, but never, ever trash it, because someone will have to clean up after you, and that isn’t cool.

Treat yourself like you treat your best friend. Unlike your mom, you will grow up to become a confident woman, who knows her worth. As much as you hear from the media and others around you, you are absolutely wonderful. You are healthy and strong, and hopefully happy. Don’t ever worry about weight. Try to only worry about your health and happiness. On that same note, if someone ever uses the word “skinny” as a synonym for looking good, or “fat” as describing someone negatively, please don’t listen to them. Every body is different, which makes life so fun and interesting. Everyone has something unique about them that the world wants to see, and you are no exception. Please believe me.

If you like boys, that is great. If you like girls, that is great too! I hope you feel comfortable enough to express your true self to those around you. Relationships are hard, but you will learn so much about yourself and what you want in life through every friendship and romantic relationship you build, so don’t be afraid to meet new people. Some boys and girls you meet will say or post rude things about you, but try not to let their harsh words get to you. The only opinion that matters in this world is your own, and as long as you are happy about yourself, all is well.

Find something you’re passionate about and go for it. Nothing is more attractive than someone who loves doing something. Whether it be sports, drawing, filming, reading, acting, or whatever else you enjoy doing, I will support you no matter what. I will be your number one fan regardless of what you end up pursuing.

Even though this world is filled with lovely treats like ice cream, sunflowers, kind people and really, really, great books, there will be some days where you don’t really like what is around you. Whether that be your peers, a certain place or town, or just an odd vibe, this will pass. Either your feelings will change, or other factors will change. Even during your most miserable days, just know that things will turn around. It may take awhile, but just know that just because you are unhappy now, does not mean that you will be unhappy in the future.

Once you get old enough to where we won’t see each other that often, please never hesitate to text or call me. I don’t care if you just need an opinion on what ice cream flavor to buy, or you really need a friend to vent to. You are worthy of so much love and happiness and I never want you to feel like you are intruding.

Like I said before, this whole letter thing is a bit odd. I have no idea what I am going to do with my life and if I’ll even have a daughter. But, I know one thing for sure. If I ever get lucky enough to have a child in my life, I am going to love you unconditionally, like my mom loves me and my siblings. So just know you are loved and supported and cared for. Love you, future daughter.

Love,

Kayle.

    Kayle Blackmore

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    Runner, recent college graduate, Alaska loving, Oregon living.