I’m staying in the church, but I can relate to much of this. I agree that people need to let go of anger, but I don’t know how people can forgive unless they face that anger and give it a voice. Whether people stay or leave, there are many who feel angry, betrayed, hurt, etc. Anger is part of the grieving process when you go through any kind of loss, including a loss of faith. Forgiveness can be a healing, spiritual process. If we don’t allow people to get mad, to disagree, to talk about their struggles, we stunt their spiritual growth. People feel threatened when someone says negative things about their belief systems, I get it. It’s the foundation for their lives and it’s part of their identity. But when we shove problems under the rug and pretend they don’t exist, when we tell people they’re not allowed to be angry at the church, we make it very hard for them to move through and past the anger. Especially if we start avoiding them and eliminate their support system while we’re at it.