Kevin Barnes
Sep 6, 2018 · 1 min read

While it’s true that some relationships are just one way abused/abuser relationships, that is less common than the dance of destruction where both partners engage in various forms of emotional abuse. Saying “just leave” encourages people in mutually destructive embrace to blame it on the partner and go on to engage in similar relationships in the future.

For couples in two-way conflict, it’s more important to recognize that they are hurting each other and learn to build new patterns of behavior. Sometimes separation is needed, but even then, only with an understanding of what role each person is playing without a one-way blame game. That’s a lot more directed effort than just pointing a finger and leaving, but in the long-run, it can actually mean less suffering and less repeating the same mistakes over and over.

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