One thing jumped out and frankly, ruined this for me. It is unnecessary, offensive — just plain wrong — to refer to people living with mental illness as ‘hopelessly bipolar’, as though it’s a lifestyle choice. I’m 44 years old. I’m well-educated, well-read and well-travelled… I have bipolar affective disorder I & after some difficult months with hypomania & a full-manic episode, I’m well. What I’m not is hopeless. My potential — and the man you refer to — may have been more difficult to realise, but it’s not impossible. I’m actually blinking back tears at this unthinking and cruel reference to an illness. Please take more care in future when you blithely write off someone because of a serious illness you are lucky not to live with.