I need to thank you for this. You hit the nail on the head and verbalized something that has made me uncomfortable with femininity/feminism for a very long time. I’ve always found the misandry that is so prevalent in feminism to be VERY unsettling. It feels to me to be SO very counter-intuitive to the equality that is purported to be the end-goal. Disallowing persons from the conversation based on their genitals is EXACTLY the type of prejudice we’re trying to eliminate-if we (cis gendered feminists) preclude some individuals from the dialogue on the sole basis of our OWN preconceived notions, we have only succeeded in making the oppressed into the oppressor.
I am grateful for your voice in this conversation. Reading this piece, I felt like it was something I’ve been waiting for, despite it being an impulse link-click. It angers me that you were made to feel like you couldn’t speak out about a subject because you weren’t a member of the “in group”. Frankly, we (again, cis-gendered feminists) need to pay attention to the many ways we perpetuate the Patriarchy, and alienating an invalidating the experiences of other women has been ENDEMIC in the feminist movement from the very beginning.
So thank you. Thank you for sharing your perspective. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for being angry. Thank you for understanding yourself enough to help me understand. Thank you for making me feel uncomfortable. Thank you for making me feel guilty about the times I’ve been non-inclusive and misandric. Thank you for making me think. Thank you for expanding my vantage point, and adding another point of reference to the giddy landscape of femininity.
In addition, TERFS are just the Patriarchy in feminist’s clothing. they make us all mad.